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Candida Just Wanted to Meet the Man of Her Dreams –Attacked on a Date–non/fiction story
Candida had been a freshman in the second semester of Queens College. She met a very tall, good looking guy called Donado in the main building of the college one day. She saw him after he saw her it would seem.
She was walking and he approached her and said “Hello! How are you doing today?” She was taken back because she was deep in thought about issues of the day. He was with friends. She was surprised that he would talk to her.
She was naturally shy and withdrawn. They walked across the campus to her next class. She gave Donado her telephone number and they talked on the phone that night. He was very, very tall. She was only 5’2″.
Her mother said that he seemed a bit too tall for her. She did not care. He seemed nice. They ate lunch at college together. One weekend Donado invited Candida to go to the KingsPlaza Mall in Brooklyn where he lived.
Candida, being some what sheltered she was nervous when she had to take the long train ride to Brooklyn, and had thoughts of sitting in the movie theatre and having something to eat in the mall with her new “boyfriend”. This would be her first boyfriend.
Her mother would not allow her to date in junior highschool, or highschool. No one ever had called the house when she was growing up. Although she was in college, she knew she had a lot more to learn then just academics!
She had told her mother that she would be going to Brooklyn to have lunch and a movie with Donado. Her mother gave her the usual warnings about safety.
When she came out of the subway she saw Donado immediately. He had a big smile on his face. He took her hand and walked with her to the Kings Plaza Mall. Once in side he ran into some of his friends.
He was proud to introduce her to his “boys” and they were pleasant. Candida had butterflies in her stomach. This was her first date! At 19 years old, she was embarressed to tell anyone that she had never had a real boyfriend!
Now, she felt like a more mature person. It was fun. Wow, and he was so tall, and she felt protected and secure! They had a lunch and then he wanted to stop at his house before they went to the movies. He shared his apartment with his mother.
His mother seemed rather small, and thin and pale. She looked very tired, exhausted. The house was clean, but she seemed annoyed with Donado. He went to his bedroom to get something and Candida and Donado’s Mom, had a uncomfortable silence.
She did not ask Candida any questions and did not volunteer any conversation. His mother just looked around the room. Donado soom emerged from his bedroom and left without saying anything to his mother.
His mother asked when he would be back and he said after the movie. When they exited the apartment he took Candida by the hand and limited his long strides so that she could keep up with him. They arrived at the movie theatre and he paid for the tickets. The movie was all that Candida expected.
Donado placed his arm around her shoulder and pulled her close to him. Candida could feel her heart racing within her chest. Wow! She thought! I have a boyfriend! Her stomach fluttered, and she felt a warming sensation deep within.
She felt that she had come to the place that she had seen other young ladies with their boyfriends on the college campus.
She was not a loner anymore! I have a boyfriend! I have a boyfriend! She could barely keep her mind on the movie!
She could not wait to get home and tell her friend from college about the movie and her boyfriend and his arm around her shoulder!
After the movie ended Donado said, “Lets go back to my house before you go home and play some checkers, you want to do that?”
Candida, really was ready to go home because her mother warned her about traveling at night from an area she was not familiar with.
She said, okay, but just for a little while. When she entered the living room, Donado invited her to sit on the leather couch. He went to his room and got a box that contained the checkers.
His mother did not come out of her room this time. She heard his mother call Donado several times before he finally answered her. Donado brought Candida a cool drink from the kitchen. He sat next to her and said I want a kiss.
Candida was unpracticed in romantic activities so she gave him a peck on the cheek. This was the first time they had been some what alone since they had met.
When she reached over to kiss his cheek he turned and kiss her on the mouth full and then pryed her lips apart and then planted a deep kiss on her.
Ugh! She felt drool on her face, and her mouth. She felt sick, and nauseas.
She pushed him away and he persisted. She began to feel scared because he had practically climbed on top of her. Soon he had her shirt up and was pulling at her bra!
She was stunned and embarressed. She was wondering what would his mother think!
She would never had let something like this happen in her mother’s house, especially with the mother in the next room.
She tried to talk and he continued to kiss her forcefully on the mouth. At one point she thought that she almost could not breath. He was tall and pressing hard against her.
She wanted to run from this night mare and could not get away. Donado finally got his way and had pulled her blouse part way off and her bra too.
Suddenly his mother was in the room and yelling…..DONADO!!!
WHAT ARE YOU ALL DOING TO HER?!!!!
What are you doing to that girl?
Stop it do you hear?
Stop it I said!
Candida’s heart was pumping, and her ears and face were burning from the heat of the emabarressment and fear she was experienceing. All she wanted to do was to run.
She had never really kissed anyone before. Plus she had never had anyone take her shirt off of her either. She was humilated. Donado’s mother must have thought that she was’nt such a nice person too.
Donado got up off the couch and ran over to his mother and told her to shut up and go back into her room. They began to argue and Candida pulled her blouse and bra back on and also began to put on her coat.
Donado wheeled around and said,
“Where are you going?”
“I am leaving, I want to go home!” Candida said.
Donado looked puzzled, “What’s the matter? What do you mean what is the matter?”
Candida could barely speak.
Her feelings were hurt, and all she wanted to do was get on the train and get home to the safety of her mother’s house. She felt lost and afraid of this Donado!
When he got her to the train station she went in and did not look back. He called her at home and she would hang up on him. He saw her at college and she would avoid him.
What is the matter is all he kept saying, and she would reply, “You know what you did!” Donado then replied, “You need to grow up little girl!”
Candida was so ashamed, because Donado had said that in front of his friends. From that day forward she walked in another direction. She avoided that area.
Some months later she met another young man at church, who treated her with respect, and they dated for several years.
Dating and relationships are delicate like a flower. They need to have care, compassion and mutual respect.
The experience described here is true. The names were changed for obvious reasons.
Candida had been inexperienced in dating. But that did not make it justified for Donado to attempt to dominate her.
This blog is for those young people who are dating and have had this experience, or might have it.
Remember respect one another, date rape, or near date rape is not fun. If someone says no! No, means just that NO!
I hope this story will help others in their quest for relationships.
Be kind to one another.
Till next blog,
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