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Clutching at Straws? Clinton Attempts to Ensare Obama in an Non-Moderated Debate! Please! When Did Bush, or Previous President Bill Clinton request that of each other for that matter?

This has got to be the least respectful run democratic fight for the presidency of the United States that I have lived to see.  What is the point of this non-moderated debate?

Does being president of the United States mean that you must have open debates,  thinking on your feet sessions at all times while holding office?  Is that really the case?  How often will a president have to debate while in office? 

How much of his job, as president  will include being challenged by the consitutients? 

Yes,  President Bush has had to answer for his views on his actions taken after 911,  Afganistan,  Iraq,  and the prisoner holding and detention centers. 

 But  it would appear that all of those media infested Presidenticial addresses have never ever been “under controled.” 

 The president states his views on his actions, takes several questions from hand picked verbally controled journalists and then takes his leave of the podium as the democrates, and republicans state their views of the presidents actions and statements. 

Let the presidenticial elections take their natural course.  Obama and Clinton should continue to campaign and let the people of the United States decide. 

With all of the issues that I need answered as American Citizen,  I would hope that Hillary Clinton,  does not “bate” other other nations into issues and discussions in this way.  Challenging countries and flexing our muscles may work on some smaller countries…but it may not work on those challenging democracy who  may  have help from larger countries who supply  them  with weapons.

Whether Clinton  states JOBS, JOBS, JOBS…..OR OBAMA STATES,  HOPE AND CHANGE….IT ALL SPELLS THE SAME THING!!!!!!

Did Hillary Clinton state that she would raise the minimum wage?!!!!  NO!   Obama stated that he would raise the minimum wage—–YEARLY!

Thus Obama and Clinton are both pushing the same agenda.  To state that Hillary is talking jobs…without increasing the earnings of those already working is counterproductive. 

Obama wants to increase the minimum wage…which will increase the wage of all Americans retroactively! 

Let the campaigns continue and be decent and in order.

Let the democrats seek their president elect and proceed to battle it out with the republican hopeful. 

Let the games stop and a serious level of respect be given  to the       democrats  constituents   intelligence.  

Is the willingness to debate a form of weakness shown by the Clinton camp?  ;To show up Obama’s weakness.  How about decision making at *****3:00 in the morning? 

 How  about waking up each candidate at 3 AM and ask them a question of global proportions?  Especially since Clinton camp wants to dwell on such a logic.  

 Sorry….but I clearly remember  the  castrophic   “911” event took place in broad day light and decisions were made while President Bush was wide awake….not asleep at 3AM!

Please let us move forward,  let the best candiate for the position be picked,  and let the NIT PICKING stop!

MINISTER JUANITA BYNUM AND SHOCK JOCK WENDY WILLIAMS OF WBLS 107.5–WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO WHEN IT COMES TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

Before I proceed allow me to explain.  It is important to understand this one major point.  NO WOMAN SHOULD BE ABUSED FOR ANY REASON AT ALL!  NO HUMANBEING SHOULD BE ABUSED FOR ANY REASON AT ALL!

   Now,  I will proceed.  I looked at the blogs and news paper articles on Minister Juanita Bynum and her marriage abuse/domestic violence episode that is ripping her marriage and ministry. 

Then I looked at Wendy Williams of the Wendy Williams Experience, and her EEO case with Nicole Spence involving her husband Kevin Hunter and –the domestic violence episodes that are threatening her very lucrative career. 

 I began to wonder.  Wendy has a following of faithful listeners, and Juanita Bynum has a following of faithful listeners TOO! 

Strange huh?!  Except Wendy does not preach the Gospel. 

 Wendy has a daily four hour show that goes from  2:00 P.M. until 7:00 P.M. .  Juanita Bynum has a church,  has CDs,  DVD’s for sale,  she tours the country and many, many other options for reaching her flock of faithful followers! 

 The obvious similarity is that they are both HIGH POWERED TYPE- A- PERSONALITY BLACK WOMEN! 

Who can rival them?—–THEIR HUSBANDS! 

 Both Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum are both powerful black women that stand tall and stong in their own work and careers.

 Yet they are challenged by the problems of domestic violence in their home ((((which is being displayed publicly))) despite their efforts to keep private pain private. 

 Why are their husband’s possibly challenging these two strong women in their careers? 

Why would  the  husbands  of these two very opposite…yet equally powerful and influential women–  allow their private marital behavior jeopardize their very successful wives in the year 2007 and 2008? 

  Let us think for a  moment….As  African Decent  women,  Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum have come a long way and have taken the lead within the black community in the United States, and possibly even in the world and the “global economy!” **Not to mention Ophra of course***

 Wendy Williams was broadcasting from California today!  She attracts all walks of life,  despite her sporadic rants about “white people” and her blackness.

  She recently complained about how her son’s Montclair New Jersey school district have suggested that the children wear “green” for  St. Patricks Day.  But when she had inquired as to what the children could wear for “Black History Month,” or “Martin Luther King Day”….she was flatly told that there was nothing that the children could wear for such annual events in American Society. 

 So Wendy did not say that she would not have her son wear green….or wait a minute …my mind is not clear if she was against him actually wearing the green but I remember Wendy Williams  stating “I have a plan for that day.”   This is a strong woman. 

 She maintains her “HOW YOU DON’IN”  AND “Hee Haw”  for the “Donkey People (folks who do not know how to avoid being used and abused, and coming back for more…or the people  who “steal” other people’s mates etc., etc.,)  But as she states….”At the end of the day …I am a mother and a wife!” 

That is why this whole circumstance of the domestic violence and the Nicole Spence EEO issue  has floored me. 

That is why I looked at Juanita Bynum,  whose “No More Sheets” sermon stirred so many Christian and Non-Christian Believers to stop taking less in life; stop taking less in their personal relationships; and take back from the devil what he stole from them….their pride,  their self esteem,  their will to live,  their joy…..etc., etc..

Believe it or not….Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum have alot in common….They just reach people in a different way.  Juanita Bynum preaches and uses scripture and Wendy Williams uses a SideKick  Charlemene. Wendy Williams also uses her various interactive draws called  Dons and Divas Dances, and  even children in events for Easter  (last year  2007). 

 I did not hear anything about a children Dons and Divas Kiddie affair for 2008—I might have missed it.  Sound Effects,  Ghetto Street Talk, Alternative Life style talk and various genres of communication to preach her message of intelligence. 

 Wendy always tries to tell those who feel like misfits in the current society that they will be accepted on her show. 

 Now,  unfortuneately   I have seen, and heard about the Christian Church…not so nice things on the level of accepting the”misfits of society” based on religious reasons….(((despite Jesus reprimand  of men who wanted to stone the harlot woman for her sins….

Jesus said, “He without sin cast the first stone….and No one cast the stone….they all walked away ashamed.”  Jesus truly turned to the harlot woman and told her to “Go and sin no more,  your sins are forgiven!”  Sometimes this verse is very seldom discussed or preached….I wonder why? 

Well,  any way….I will continue this further later on. 

 But just think about it for a minute….The two women I am comparing and contrasting here are both black,  high powered…..and very, very, very famous in the black community for different reasons…yet they both suffer from domestic violence. 

 But my question still remains….Is it the  effects of the power and the fame on the marriage that causes the stress and the strain? 

 Did these two women,  or other women  permit themselves to stay in bad marriages, or abusive relationships in order to maintain that appearance of SUCCESS to the OUTSIDE WORLD AT LARGE?

 To many Christians,   it does not seem proper to have a broken marriage after telling people how “Jesus can set the sinner free from bondage to death, hell and the grave.” 

It looks odd that Jesus is seemingly unable to prevent two Christians from breaking up, or fighting with each other over serious or silly issues.

  Personality conflicts,  irreconsilible differences that legal documents site for marriage break ups…seem strange in the Christain faith…because we are suppose to look beyond our differences and look at what fits the marriage like glue….JESUS!  

So that is  possibly why the Powerful Juanita Bynum and her abusive marriage/domestic violent episode  is rocking the Christian Church and is so very painful and humiliating to watch, and hear about in the media. 

We want Jesus to fix it.  But see,  it has to be fixed within the two people….they have to both be willing….they have to release the issues that have bound them and then open themselves to healing. 

How difficult is that for such a Powerful Preacher Juanita Bynum and her Powerful preacher husband?

With Wendy Williams,  the struggle is severe but also it takes a different turn.  Wendy’s job as a Radio Shock Jock Journalist, is one in which she constantly opens the private lives of well known celebrities to public view through discussion, or interview. 

Now, listen,  Wendy always states….”I did not do the actual research….I only repeated what I read National Enquirer or  “Life and Style” Magazine.  So you can’t say I had an insider tell me and I let the cat out of the bag.”—Wendy Williams…(paraphrase only) 

No,  but she does discuss celebrity gossip as a major part of her show ~~~~just like I am writing about and comparing and contrasting her and Juanita Bynum. 

 If you do not pass gossip along…then you are not a gossiper….but if you join in on the chain of lies…or truths…or whatever they be….you then cannot say that you are not part of the problem….can you? 

 Example,  Britney Spears personal struggles have been so hightlighted by the media that every body knows that Britney Spears may go out on the town with out underwear on ….to night clubs etc.  How do we all know about that? 

  Because the media gossip columnist and Rag Mags,  and Shock Jocks on the radio, and even the regular news channels are constantly showing pictures, or describing  Britney Spears even doing mundane activities like shopping with a friend.

Thus  Wendy Williams is being trashed by her rivals for being a gossip shock jock and now she is embroiled in her own personal dilemmas. 

 So her rivals on Hot 97 are jumping up and down at her troubles and  Wendy is catching the Heat!  

 Wendy is catching the heat like no one else…except Janet Jackson did after her “wardrobe malfunction” during that football game a couple of years ago. Perfect lovable Janet Jackson made a big mistake and it took several years to live it down. 

 The public is not very forgiving of its’  “American Idols”–so it seems.  Thus the troubles of Wendy Williams—high powered black woman in a high stakes position in the radio and television media/journalism industry….So again I ask…

.Why would her also “black” husband not realize the opportunity they both have to pave the road for young minorities of all races….are the issues in the marriage that severe or that trivial?

  It is like being at the top of a mountain….Let’s say Mount Everest….a very tall mountain upon which you can see the future….and yet you worry about a splinter in your finger!

  To remedy that splinter is easy….but that distance you wish to travel will be a long, long road filled with bumps, valleys, dark places, and bogs….so move forward and not look back.

  It is sad to see our hopefuls that give our youth vision….for the Old Testament states….”Without a Vision the People Perish!” 

  So that is why I  focused on these two women and the men they are married to.  Do they not realize that their lives have impacted on so many generations  to come?  Probably not.

The problem I have with domestic violence is that it appears that the man (any man)  who either rapes a woman,  or beats a woman….uses those extreme methods to have POWER over a situation inwhich the man feels powerless. This is a difficult issue to say the least.

What do you think?

Riveroflifelisajoy

WENDY’S BREAKS HAVE BEEN CUT SHORT? –Wendy Williams and the continuing EEO dispute

I was listening today as I went about my daily personal errands and I heard Wendy Williams and Charlemange.  I was annoyed because I heard this Old School R & B Music. 

 Wendy interviewed Robert Verdie, (some high haute fashion guy).  They had quick banter and silly jokes and some discussion on fashion and designe.  Quite boring.  Suddenly Wendy states,  “Talk fast,  they cut my breaks and I have to play more music!”  I felt rushed and frustrated! 

 I heard Wendy stated before a this celebrity interview that Wendy was asking on air about an apothercery in her commuinty.  I wondered why Wendy would ask for something in her neighborhood on the air like that. 

Why would you do that?  Even her side kick seemed uncomfortable with her highlighting her  neigborhood.  Strange I thought. 

 I began to worry about Wendy.  Although she is accused of committing and EEO violation —I do not think that she is beyond reproach like IMUS.  I do not think anybody knows where Howard Stern,  or Don Imus live. Please take care and continue to highlight the funny stuff and the celebrity gossip that you do so well!

 

Controversy of the New Governor Paterson: I Need Parental Guidance for the Latest News Stories! Wow! Threesomes….I never thought such Words would be connected to Elected Officials!

   Jay Jewels Cry FOR HUMANITY(Jay Jewels “Cry for Humanity”)

I just can not take it anymore!  I had heard alot of negative things about Spitzer  before this  big mess came to the front.  All I want to know is this.  When he was having these activities where were his security team? 

Look,  I really do not want to discuss Spitzer.  I just want to know why the news papers have to keep making each head line full of words that you do not want to discuss in front of your kids….even your older kids for that matter.

  I am very open  in discussion with my family on many topics.       But the McGreevy issue was so way over the top of my level of existence I was embarressed.  I felt like I had a furtive glance over at the dirty magazine section in the subway newsstand!  I do not know what the future holds! 

What was worse is  that today I saw our new Governor’s wife’s foot bottom with her big toe sticking way out from underneath her leg in a yoga pose on the front of the Daily News!  Is that really neccesary?  Is it required to show every aspect of our elected officials private selves?

  I will not have the bottoms of my feet and big toe photographed just to get a private sector or public service job!  I just do not get it!  Did the legally blind new Governor Paterson cheat on his wife for three years or less? 

 Why did I have to know about it?   I do not believe any one has not cheated …even if it has been emotional cheating.  You know what I mean.  The type of cheating that involves the phone calls to a good “friend” from work. 

 You eat lunch with this person and laugh about job issues, get frustrated together,  complain about the same stuff and cry on each other’s shoulder when the other does not get that much wanted  promotion.  YOu know what I mean!  That job friend that is of the opposite  sex! 

 Emotional committment….days that person is absent from work…are empty days.  Sometimes you might even tell your spouse that you work friend was sick and work slowed up in his or her absence!  You just could not hide your emotions about the empty feeling you had all day.  So now you mope!

Any way,  I digress!  The problem I find in all of this open discussion is that after a while everyone will be found guilty!  Even today in the AOL Black Voices blog….the mayor of Detroit, who is black  is now being told to step down for not telling the truth about his affair! 

 This had nothing to do with his actual job.  But if you have cheated on your spouse, or had an affair you must come clean about it!  Or you face being let go under big,  big,  shame!  “THE SCARLET LETTER HAS RETURNED!”  —for those of you who are literature buffs! 

 Do we have to now tell of the crushes we had as little kids, tweens, teenagers,  then pets we owned,  aunts, uncles, we liked  or did not like?

  Do we have to tell of the time we accepted a gift and then turned around and regifted it because we lied about how much we liked something and really didn’t?  Are there going to be lie detector tests that will analize whether we tell somebody that the dress they brought looks good on them or not and whether we mean it? 

Do you have to now double check yourself and your personal relationships before you apply for a job?  Where will this end?  Public service is truly public isn’t it?  I just can’t take it any more. 

 I do not  want to know so much personal information.  I want to just know that I can get my taxes lowered,  get an increase in my annual pay,  go to college cheaper,  pay for my dental work cheaper….lose weight safely and go on trips in our free country!  Prosititution is not acceptable….definitely not! 

But do I have to see Governor Paterson’s wife’s FEET on page #2 of the Daily News?  Can we leave nothing private?  I never saw Nancy Reagan’s feet,  I never saw Hillary Clinton’s feet,  I never saw Jimmy Carter’s (President Carter’s) wife’s feet! 

 So why is Mrs. Paterson’s life so exposed?  JUST TOO MUCH INFORMATION!!!!!  JUST LOWER THE RATES OF CAR INSURANCE!

  LOWER THE RATES OF MORTGAGES!  LOWER THE RATES OF HEALTH INSURANCE!  LOWER THE RATES OF TOLLS ON THE BRIDGES,  LOWER THE PRICE OF FOOD….GET THE MYSTERY GARBARGE  ADDITIVES,  OUT OF OUR FOOD.  STOP GLOBAL WARMING, SAVE THE POLAR BEAR,  SAVE THE SEA ANIMALS, STOP DREDGEING THE OCEAN FLOOR AND KILLING OFF THE BARRIER REEFS,  STOP OVER FISHING,  ETC., ETC., ETC.,!  

Can we get back to business please and save the planet and mankind please!  The only bare foot I want to see is that of a homeless person getting shoes and socks put on it! 

AM I WRONG?  PLEASE LET ME KNOW.

Thank you.

—-riverolflifelisajoy

DON IMUS ON THE RADIO! HEAR WE GOES AGAINEZ! DON IMUS CAN HAZ RADIOZ! OH PLEEZE!

JEWELZ HAND.jpg7th Grade JEWELZ HAND ***(This picture was done two years ago by J-Jewelz.)*** -My son’s interpertation of his hand.—I asked his permission to use it as my interpertation of media and it’s control over our listening ears in this society today 2007 and beyond!

Why is it that this society loves to have an unending diet of hatred,  ignorance and disrespect tossed and bantered about the radio waves like a volley ball? 

Why can’t we all get along? 

I heard on 1010 wins—my  usual radio news program that I listen to while driving….that Don Imus is going to get a black side kick!

  Do they really think that is going to do anything to prevent him from making inappropriate statements? 

Whoever sits there unless it is Whoopy Goldberg, or Rosey O’Donnel will just be a YESUH,  YESUH BOSS person —like the STEPIN’FETCH-IT of my mothers days!  Ugh!

  It is so disgusting.  But I will not lie. I might have done the same for the type of money if I  was offered the chance. 

 But I would not sit there like “Robin” does for that  other ICK, YACK ,YUCK,  radio talk show Host— who went to satillight dish radio with his always inappropriate talk show. 

“Robin”  yuck,  yucks it up and laughs all the way to the bank. 

 ((((I can’t remember this guys name but you know who it is.  He has dark black hair and he is tall.  He is very rich, and I believe he divorced his wife.—-you know a realy winner/looser in my opinion because he talks in sterotypical terms on men,  women,  himself etc. )))) —I got it now!!!  Its a gentleman named Howard Stern.

It is annoying.  BUT—HE does have an audience that eats that stuff up.  Okay,  lets be honest. 

***Please help me out here—what is that guys name with the black female side kick to all of his obnoxious statements yucking it up to the bank and laughing at all of the nonesense that goes with his show?—please comment and tell me this guy’s  name!—Thanks!

 I do listen to Wendy Williams (((at 107.5 WBLS))).***  She does say inappropriate stuff sometimes….or rather it borders on inappropriate topics!!! 

 But Wendy tends to attack only the RICH AND WEALTHY—not the poor up and coming young people in our world today like Mr.  Imus did. 

If Wendy has something to say to a person she generally states it to the person.  Generally it is to rich folk who are grown enough to handle it.   (Like Puffy, P. Diddy-Diddy and the like*****)   

 An example would be how she and HER sidekick Charlmane The –G-d!      They try to let young women who appear to have confused concepts on their path in life and how they allow themselves to be  badly treated in their personal relationships—-So Wendy calls them “DONKEYs—THEY EVEN HAVE A SONG FOR THEM. LOL! —Look nobody is perfect. —But the difference between Wendy is that she speaks directly to the young people that are actually asking for her insight in life experiences.  It seems hard to believe but some of these young people take  Wendy quite seriously and then they make their own decisions. 

But Mr. Imus talks about people he probably would not even think about unless he was at work. 

 Wendy Williams comes to the Hood,  promotes the hood  and even has scholarships for young women and gives them opportunities to do internships! 

Who has Don Imus Mentored?  I will leave that to your imagination!

 But let us remember I WAS B0RN IN  1961!   KENNEDY,  MARTIN LUTHER KING AND  OTHERS WHO HAVE BEEN FIGHTING FOR HUMAN RIGHTS AMONG THE RACES DID NOT DIE ONE HUNDRED YEARS AGO…..SO wHY ARE WE TREATING EACH OTHER AND OUR PERSONAL RACIAL HISTORIC PATHS IN SUCH A LIGHT AND FLIPANT WAY!? 

I hope that this re-assignment to his perch does not have Mr.  Imus –who by the way is not a young wippersapper and does know the damage he is doing–

I hope he does not crow up another worldwind of negativity between blacks, whites, browns, yellows, etc.  We are all bleeding red!

  We need each other!  –Just like the sea animals need the ocean.  We are one in the same as a human race. 

 I do not believe that we could survive without the other in the world.  Family does not always get along….but deliberate acts of self-hatred between the races will jeopardize our childrens, children in the generations to come. 

 Please,  you may not agree with me.  But lets try to maintain and manage those radio jocks who have the power of the air ways and have the power of influence with the media attention and commerical air time

 If you do not sponsor or agree with some negative statements speakout!  

 Why wait for the AL SHARPTON’S OF THE WORLD to speak out for you?! 

 Think it through.  That statement about those basketball players was uncalled for. 

 So I hope Mr.  Imus learned his lesson!  KEEP IT LIGHT MR. IMUS AND THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!   I hope the radio producers know what they are doing! 

It is not fair when radio jocks try to make abrupt and thoughtless statements  about COLLEGE STUDENTS–or anybody for that matter. 

It is ususally stated that it is not fair to talk about somebody who is not present in the room.

  Well,  I have a better one. 

 *****IF YOU DO NOT LIKE SOMEONE’S METHODS,  OR ACTIONS, LIFESTYLE OR APPEAREANCE—WHY NOT INVITE THEM ON YOUR SHOW MR.  IMUS AND THEN LASH INTO THEM?

  GIVE PEOPLE A CHANCE TO RESPOND AND THEN YOU MAY AVOID THAT PUBLIC OUTCRY AND DECREASE  CALATERAL DAMAGE FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR RADIO STATION.

I will be listening and I will respond.

AS JESSE JACKSON STATES:

LETS KEEP HOPE ALIVE!

AS  I state:

Try to look past race, and look into your neighbors heart,  and see that we are all basically the same. 

 We all have same basic needs…..food,  clothing,  shelter, love.  To me the most important thing***after food and shelter is to have  LOVE!