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THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM….REFLECTIONS ON WENDY WILLIAMS JUNE 20, 2008 BROADCAST
image of elephant taken from aol.com
Wendy has a laugh that is sometimes forced….sound of happiness? Sound of pre-tend fun? Sound of real enjoyment when you are tickeled pink by a “funny”. I am not sure. Sometimes it sounds that she is laughing at herself. That is okay…I do that sometimes too.
Yesterday Wendy and Charlemane sat on the radio and talked about her up coming show and going to LA to get ready for her show on July 14, 2008. Wendy talked about people going into her office (PINK ROOM) her frig and taking bottles of her LIQUOR.
She discussed putting locks on the frig…Charlmane told how he sits quietly in the morning and people come in and take things. They made references to the cleaning lady and their security guards which created the ELEPHANT INTHE ROOM syndrome and huge laughter erupted and they giggled toward the end of the show. Charlemane even made reference to SUPERMAN RAPPER…and IceTea issues and then they went off air at 7:00.
So Wendy is still here folks….making jokes about the Elephant in the room. Wendy has made statements that she has suffered for trying to have a family like atmosphere with her staff.
She vowed to never have a closeknit group of interns and staff ever again on Thursday…
She made reference to her having a pole up her you know what because of her being SO GIVING and understanding of her work staff.
She said she wants to keep everyone working for her on a formal basis and never again allow anyone to get that close to her.
I listened and wondered, how many of us on regular jobs have allowed people to come home with us….only to find out that our private lives become public when that co-worker gets back to work.
Every smiling face HAS TEETH…PEOPLE!
I could relate very well to that view on life. Some people might say that is being very negative….
I reserve the right to choose my friends.
Just because you work with someone and have a close working relationship does not mean that you should bring these people into your personal lives…
There is no contract available that will prevent someone from making your personal private business public.
Hey, even the pastor of my church told me (when I explained that I am so tired and unable to function on the level of cleaning in my house) …..
…..”IF YOU DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR ….NO ONE WILL COME IN….DO NOT INVITE PEOPLE IN YOUR HOUSE…AND YOU CLEAN HOUSE WHEN YOU ARE READY….JUST DO NOT OPEN YOUR DOOR!…..
I laughted a hearty laugh when the pastor said that to me….because I knew exactly what he meant. So I hope Wendy Williams learns that same thing.
Your private business is just that….PRIVATE….Keep your marriage, children, hurts, shames, angers, illnesses, financial problems to yourself and you may find that you will not get so many hard stares…
And definitely do not allow co-workers to visit your home to see you argue or fuss with your mate, and children. Everybody has eyes, ears, mouth and a nose.
Learn from Wendy to protect your privacy and your family as well. kEEP THAT elephant out of your house too.
Tell people of your victories…but not of every defeat…..they don’t care….they just want to have something to gossip about.
Well, Till next blog…..
RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY~!
Breaking News!!!!—-WWWWWEEEEEENNNNNNDDDDDYYYYYYYY WILLIAMS!!!!! TELEVISION TALK SHOW IS COMING!!! ****FOX TELEVISION ENTERTAINMENT~~~~DEN MAR MERCURY PRODUCERS~~~ LIONS GATE ENTERTAINMENT SHOW will air ON JULY 14, 2008 ******NEW YORK, DETROIT, L.A. CALIFORNIA, and DALLAS TEXAS!!!!! WOW!!!!
I just heard this on the WENDY WILLIAMS EXPERIENCE @ WBLS 107.5–at about 5:00 p.m. that on July 14, 2008 Wendy will air her Cable Talk Show on Fox T.V.
She is going to rise like the phoenix!
You have got to believe in yourself no matter how the odds are stacked against you!!!!!
Her talk show is going to happen!
“So Wendy….keep up the good work.
Stay out of trouble. Watch your conduct and that of those you love around you. “
“Don’t give in to negativity. Reach out for help when you need it and go for it girl…GO FOR IT GIRL!!!!!”
The DEN MAR MECURY~~~LIONSGATE GROUP IS REPONSIBLE FOR SUCH PROGRAMS AS “FAMILY FEUD,” “SOUTH PARK,” AND TYLER PERRY’S WORKS OF ART –MOST RECENTLY “DADDY’S LITTLE GIRLS,” AND “WHY DID I GET MARRIED” !!!!!!! WOW!!!!! Wendy has walked into the top market in media!
She announced this around 5:00 p.m. with the blockbuster sound effects!
Charlemane her side kick read the information on her up coming talk show.
But also….like I said in previous blogs…..WENDY’S MOVIE IS GOING TO BE RELEASED SOON!
….So for all those out to say the NEGATIVE all the time…..back up and look up at the next new celebrity in media!!!!! Wendy Williams!!!!
Charlemane explained that Wendy’s Talk Show will be on Cable of Course…..FOX ENTERTAINMENT…. Den Mar Mecury ~~~LionsGate —This as Charlemane explained it is for 4 WEEKS in July. Starting on July 14, 2008. This is the pilot program and it will take a several week break and then return and go NATIONAL!!!!!
Wendy’s husband will also be included in the deal….according to the communication read by Charlemane!!!! —-So again….Hot 97 crew, and all NAY SAYERS!!!!—-WHERE IS YOUR SINDICATED TELEVISION TALK SHOW? START WORKING ON YOUR FUTURE AND YOU CAN BE LIKE YOUR CO- JOURNALIST—SHOCK JOCK ACROSS THE DIAL.
*************AS MY GRANDFATHER WAS KNOWN TO SAY…..50% OF YOUR LIFE IS SPENT MINDING YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND THE OTHER 50% IS SPENT LEAVING OTHER PEOPLE’S BUSINESS ALONE!!!!!!********
That may not always apply to journalists, shock jocks, and gossip columnists though—-but keep it in mind….It may save you from alot of problems in life….
Any way back to Wendy Williams Experience! Good Fortune and enjoy….the rest of us will be watching!
OH, AND BY THE BY….Ms. Jones in the morning….try to inspire your co-journalist!
MINISTER JUANITA BYNUM AND SHOCK JOCK WENDY WILLIAMS OF WBLS 107.5–WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO WHEN IT COMES TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?
Before I proceed allow me to explain. It is important to understand this one major point. NO WOMAN SHOULD BE ABUSED FOR ANY REASON AT ALL! NO HUMANBEING SHOULD BE ABUSED FOR ANY REASON AT ALL!
Now, I will proceed. I looked at the blogs and news paper articles on Minister Juanita Bynum and her marriage abuse/domestic violence episode that is ripping her marriage and ministry.
Then I looked at Wendy Williams of the Wendy Williams Experience, and her EEO case with Nicole Spence involving her husband Kevin Hunter and –the domestic violence episodes that are threatening her very lucrative career.
I began to wonder. Wendy has a following of faithful listeners, and Juanita Bynum has a following of faithful listeners TOO!
Strange huh?! Except Wendy does not preach the Gospel.
Wendy has a daily four hour show that goes from 2:00 P.M. until 7:00 P.M. . Juanita Bynum has a church, has CDs, DVD’s for sale, she tours the country and many, many other options for reaching her flock of faithful followers!
The obvious similarity is that they are both HIGH POWERED TYPE- A- PERSONALITY BLACK WOMEN!
Who can rival them?—–THEIR HUSBANDS!
Both Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum are both powerful black women that stand tall and stong in their own work and careers.
Yet they are challenged by the problems of domestic violence in their home ((((which is being displayed publicly))) despite their efforts to keep private pain private.
Why are their husband’s possibly challenging these two strong women in their careers?
Why would the husbands of these two very opposite…yet equally powerful and influential women– allow their private marital behavior jeopardize their very successful wives in the year 2007 and 2008?
Let us think for a moment….As African Decent women, Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum have come a long way and have taken the lead within the black community in the United States, and possibly even in the world and the “global economy!” **Not to mention Ophra of course***
Wendy Williams was broadcasting from California today! She attracts all walks of life, despite her sporadic rants about “white people” and her blackness.
She recently complained about how her son’s Montclair New Jersey school district have suggested that the children wear “green” for St. Patricks Day. But when she had inquired as to what the children could wear for “Black History Month,” or “Martin Luther King Day”….she was flatly told that there was nothing that the children could wear for such annual events in American Society.
So Wendy did not say that she would not have her son wear green….or wait a minute …my mind is not clear if she was against him actually wearing the green but I remember Wendy Williams stating “I have a plan for that day.” This is a strong woman.
She maintains her “HOW YOU DON’IN” AND “Hee Haw” for the “Donkey People (folks who do not know how to avoid being used and abused, and coming back for more…or the people who “steal” other people’s mates etc., etc.,) But as she states….”At the end of the day …I am a mother and a wife!”
That is why this whole circumstance of the domestic violence and the Nicole Spence EEO issue has floored me.
That is why I looked at Juanita Bynum, whose “No More Sheets” sermon stirred so many Christian and Non-Christian Believers to stop taking less in life; stop taking less in their personal relationships; and take back from the devil what he stole from them….their pride, their self esteem, their will to live, their joy…..etc., etc..
Believe it or not….Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum have alot in common….They just reach people in a different way. Juanita Bynum preaches and uses scripture and Wendy Williams uses a SideKick Charlemene. Wendy Williams also uses her various interactive draws called Dons and Divas Dances, and even children in events for Easter (last year 2007).
I did not hear anything about a children Dons and Divas Kiddie affair for 2008—I might have missed it. Sound Effects, Ghetto Street Talk, Alternative Life style talk and various genres of communication to preach her message of intelligence.
Wendy always tries to tell those who feel like misfits in the current society that they will be accepted on her show.
Now, unfortuneately I have seen, and heard about the Christian Church…not so nice things on the level of accepting the”misfits of society” based on religious reasons….(((despite Jesus reprimand of men who wanted to stone the harlot woman for her sins….
Jesus said, “He without sin cast the first stone….and No one cast the stone….they all walked away ashamed.” Jesus truly turned to the harlot woman and told her to “Go and sin no more, your sins are forgiven!” Sometimes this verse is very seldom discussed or preached….I wonder why?
Well, any way….I will continue this further later on.
But just think about it for a minute….The two women I am comparing and contrasting here are both black, high powered…..and very, very, very famous in the black community for different reasons…yet they both suffer from domestic violence.
But my question still remains….Is it the effects of the power and the fame on the marriage that causes the stress and the strain?
Did these two women, or other women permit themselves to stay in bad marriages, or abusive relationships in order to maintain that appearance of SUCCESS to the OUTSIDE WORLD AT LARGE?
To many Christians, it does not seem proper to have a broken marriage after telling people how “Jesus can set the sinner free from bondage to death, hell and the grave.”
It looks odd that Jesus is seemingly unable to prevent two Christians from breaking up, or fighting with each other over serious or silly issues.
Personality conflicts, irreconsilible differences that legal documents site for marriage break ups…seem strange in the Christain faith…because we are suppose to look beyond our differences and look at what fits the marriage like glue….JESUS!
So that is possibly why the Powerful Juanita Bynum and her abusive marriage/domestic violent episode is rocking the Christian Church and is so very painful and humiliating to watch, and hear about in the media.
We want Jesus to fix it. But see, it has to be fixed within the two people….they have to both be willing….they have to release the issues that have bound them and then open themselves to healing.
How difficult is that for such a Powerful Preacher Juanita Bynum and her Powerful preacher husband?
With Wendy Williams, the struggle is severe but also it takes a different turn. Wendy’s job as a Radio Shock Jock Journalist, is one in which she constantly opens the private lives of well known celebrities to public view through discussion, or interview.
Now, listen, Wendy always states….”I did not do the actual research….I only repeated what I read National Enquirer or “Life and Style” Magazine. So you can’t say I had an insider tell me and I let the cat out of the bag.”—Wendy Williams…(paraphrase only)
No, but she does discuss celebrity gossip as a major part of her show ~~~~just like I am writing about and comparing and contrasting her and Juanita Bynum.
If you do not pass gossip along…then you are not a gossiper….but if you join in on the chain of lies…or truths…or whatever they be….you then cannot say that you are not part of the problem….can you?
Example, Britney Spears personal struggles have been so hightlighted by the media that every body knows that Britney Spears may go out on the town with out underwear on ….to night clubs etc. How do we all know about that?
Because the media gossip columnist and Rag Mags, and Shock Jocks on the radio, and even the regular news channels are constantly showing pictures, or describing Britney Spears even doing mundane activities like shopping with a friend.
Thus Wendy Williams is being trashed by her rivals for being a gossip shock jock and now she is embroiled in her own personal dilemmas.
So her rivals on Hot 97 are jumping up and down at her troubles and Wendy is catching the Heat!
Wendy is catching the heat like no one else…except Janet Jackson did after her “wardrobe malfunction” during that football game a couple of years ago. Perfect lovable Janet Jackson made a big mistake and it took several years to live it down.
The public is not very forgiving of its’ “American Idols”–so it seems. Thus the troubles of Wendy Williams—high powered black woman in a high stakes position in the radio and television media/journalism industry….So again I ask…
.Why would her also “black” husband not realize the opportunity they both have to pave the road for young minorities of all races….are the issues in the marriage that severe or that trivial?
It is like being at the top of a mountain….Let’s say Mount Everest….a very tall mountain upon which you can see the future….and yet you worry about a splinter in your finger!
To remedy that splinter is easy….but that distance you wish to travel will be a long, long road filled with bumps, valleys, dark places, and bogs….so move forward and not look back.
It is sad to see our hopefuls that give our youth vision….for the Old Testament states….”Without a Vision the People Perish!”
So that is why I focused on these two women and the men they are married to. Do they not realize that their lives have impacted on so many generations to come? Probably not.
The problem I have with domestic violence is that it appears that the man (any man) who either rapes a woman, or beats a woman….uses those extreme methods to have POWER over a situation inwhich the man feels powerless. This is a difficult issue to say the least.
What do you think?
Riveroflifelisajoy
She’s Back! Wendy Williams of the Wendy Williams Experience- DA DA DA DAAAAA! The Queen of All Media! Sounds Positive and Strong
Today while driving and thinking on my own personal issues I switched from Hot 97 for HIP/HOP music and checked in on Wendy! Well, despite the issues of the Nicole Spence complaint Wendy is still on the air.
She sounds like herself, and she and Charlemagne are Yuck, yuck, yucking it Up! Talking about advice hour, and Wendy answering her own telephones.
It seemed almost like nothing negative had ever been talked about on Hot 97 from jealous Ms. Jones. It seemed like the shocking news had never been. And I wished it were true. But through it all Wendy has stood tall.
The first few days she appeared stressed and let her listening audience know it. She really does talk to her audience. Yesterday Wendy stated, “I don’t trust people!” I silently agreed with her in my head for my own reasons.
I hope that she deals honestly with her situation. You know….she is like the “friend in my head” radio personality. Although I would probably never tell anybody some of the things she has been known to say or discuss.
Wendy would ask the questions I would never ask. Some or many of Wendy ‘s opinions I do not agree with but are food for thought on alot of levels. You can learn from just about any body. But anyway, I digress….So Wendy and Charlemagne sounded like their old selves today.
Thank G-d for second, third, and fourth chances….uh….Howard Stern……uh….Don Imus….uh Shock Jock that harressed Hot 97 side kick of Ms. Jones in the morning….(what is that guy’s name anywhooo?)
Think about it fellow bloggers….
Till next time
riveroflifelisajoy
P.S. Maybe Tyler Perry should write a play about Black Journalist, and the lives they live….Oh, forgot….Wendy has her own movie coming out! —When is that movie set? Summer time seems like a good idea?!
I can’t wait to see that movie about Wendy Williams and her life. Ca’mon Ms. Jones @ Hot 97….make your movie too! Get moving! Maybe even get a perfume deal too!
LOLOL! Till next blog…..
WENDY’S BREAKS HAVE BEEN CUT SHORT? –Wendy Williams and the continuing EEO dispute
I was listening today as I went about my daily personal errands and I heard Wendy Williams and Charlemange. I was annoyed because I heard this Old School R & B Music.
Wendy interviewed Robert Verdie, (some high haute fashion guy). They had quick banter and silly jokes and some discussion on fashion and designe. Quite boring. Suddenly Wendy states, “Talk fast, they cut my breaks and I have to play more music!” I felt rushed and frustrated!
I heard Wendy stated before a this celebrity interview that Wendy was asking on air about an apothercery in her commuinty. I wondered why Wendy would ask for something in her neighborhood on the air like that.
Why would you do that? Even her side kick seemed uncomfortable with her highlighting her neigborhood. Strange I thought.
I began to worry about Wendy. Although she is accused of committing and EEO violation —I do not think that she is beyond reproach like IMUS. I do not think anybody knows where Howard Stern, or Don Imus live. Please take care and continue to highlight the funny stuff and the celebrity gossip that you do so well!
# 3 Article on the Topic*****What Happened Wendy? Why do Women settle For Domestic Violence? You can Bail on Kevin Hunter! **Wendy Williams Under Fire**–
Look, I have been reading other blogs and I do not want to be too harsh…so I will roll this blog a bit ganster! Ya heard me?!
Yo, Wendy Williams….Queen of All Media! You always be rockin’ GO HARD OR GO HOME!—Wuzzzzz—Up? Wendy?
Yo, You speak about not being a donkey! I can’t believe that you allowed yourself to be treated like a donkey to keep the family together?!
So many of us women black or white have been allowing ourselves to sacrifice our health, minds, wealth, and dignity for the look of a family!
Are you tellin’ me that you allowed your husband to hurt you? Please, tell me you are stronger than that Wendy!
Please don’t let yourself down, and don’t permit others to including husbands, so-called friends, relatives bring you down either!
Word is born….( meaning honestly) **** I really believe that you are innocent until proven guilty! I want to believe the best of you and for you.
But if your husband alledgedly did something foul, and disgusting to another humanbeing ….don’t cover for him.
Cover for your child that is a much more important issue. Stand for what is right and your child will remember that for the rest of his life.
Tell the truth and move on in whatever state that will be…..But atleast you will be able to look at yourself in the mirror every morning YO!
Listen, life is wrought with various pit falls…you know that already—-So whats up with the unnecessary behavior of your husband (((if that is true?)))
Why would you permit him (((your husband Kevin Hunter))) to carry on like that?
Why would you act like that yourself?!
Listen since you have a radio show that is supposed to be for entertainment purposes only…so I always took it as a “joke” —journalism with a wink of an eye!
I did not think that you were REALLY that — COLD HEARTED—are you? !
I defended you in my first few articles because I did not like what Ms. Jones in the Morning said on Hot 97 about you and you being CHOKED by your husband.
If that is true, I hope you are alright.
If it is not I wish those who like yellow journalism would receive the punishment that they deserve for selling lies, and falsehoods.
ON the question of Nicole and abuse at work….You always spoke highly of her…..Every situation has more than one side….but I hope that you are not allowing yourself to be railroaded.
But if you did maltreat Nicole come clean now…..settle and don’t fight it out….Be honest.
Watch the LITTLE KIM issue….don’t put yourself in jeopardy!!!
Please Wendy….I know you worked too hard to let yourself go down in such a dogged out donkey way!!!!
Think about it!!!!!! Wendy….really!
Treat people like you want to be treated. If you did wrong correct the problem by apoloizing and offering whatever finanicial repayment that is necesary.
Think about it…please.
Remember Wendy Williams….you are a one of a kind….along with Ms. Jones….future women journalist are watching and learning from your mistakes.
All others give your reply—-if you think you need to.
Peace out—-Riverof lifelisajoy