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SLAVERY IN AMERICA: RECENT APOLOGIES AND THE DEBATE ON REPARATIONS

I am  a child of slaves.  I am a child of first generation black Americans to have their own New York City Home.  I am a child of a African American family to be the first  to go to college.  I am a mother of a black child who is first generation to play tennis as his major sport of skill. 

 I am African American wife of  a skizophrenic, (who has been missing for ten years).  I am an African American wife of a African American male skizphonprenic- who has not provided child support for ten years due to his missing status and the RULES that govern the Social Security Administration.

  I am an African American who can not get HEAP HELP (GOVERNMENTAL FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE FOR UTILITY BILLS i.e. Gas and Electric) because the government states that SINGLE PARENT STATUS…EARNING $43,000.00 PER YEAR, PAYING $1600.00 for 3 bedroom apartment in New York City,  paying full utilties of building,  $158.00 per month car insurance,  extremely high milk, juice, fruit, meat,  vegetables,  personal care products,  clothing,  medical needs insurances,  life insurances on my self valued at over $100,00.00 disability insurances on myself (especially since my missing sick husband left me responsible for my child),  catastrophic disease insurances on my self.

Having detailed my financial condition as a 48 yearold African American Daughter of slave ancestors….It would appear that I have the same if not similar problems as my white counter part Americans in some cases. 

 However,  what makes me believe that I do deserve a form if not actual SLAVE REPARATION–is that I would have completed COLLEGE many years ago—if it had not been for BEOG/ PELL AND TAP GRANTS BEING DENIED!  

Those grants were denied me when I was 21 years old!  I had just been accepted into CBS Television Internship Program through Queens College in the Journalism department.  I was registering for my course that was applied to the internship and was told by the college that PELL GRANTS,  BEOG AND TAP Aide had been denied to me because I had used up all of my POINTS! 

 I did not financial aide available!!!  I had ignorantly retaken courses that I had failed  and then passed.  However,  my re-registering for those courses had caused me to use up my points. 

 My Academic Counselor named  Barbara Blank  did not guide me properly,  —I am truly not clear on how this terrible mistake occured.

  Whatever caused this terrible error…caused me to have to leave college after I had already completed 61 credits!!!! 

 The financial aide counselor had discussed the problem with my mother….my African American mother….another daughter of ancestral slaves….My mother whose parents had not been educated higher than elementary school in Virgina (Drakes Branch,  and Farmville Virgina to be exact). 

 My mother had an option explained to her by the financial aide counselor….”Refinance your house so that your daughter could finish college.”

  My mother, descendant of slaves flatly stated,” NO! I am not wasting my mortgage on that!”

  My sister, who did not complete college and who was 6 years older than me– had been whispering into my mother’s ears heavily.

  She did not want me to complete college…because she was jealous and she told my mother  that I becoming a CAREER COLLEGE STUDENT….LEARNING BUT NEVER GRADUATING.

  I was only 21 years  old at that time.  Also CBS television internship supervisor in charge of my internship had promised me a great future!  I had to compete against other people—HUNDREDS! .. inorder to get accepted into that internship!

  I had made an impression on the CBS Internship program…but now!  My financial aide points had run out from Pell Grant,  BEOG,  and TAP were no longer funding my education.

  I could not work to make enough money to pay for those classes,–tuition was a mere $900.00 back then….but it was still to high for a full time college student. 

The final outcome is this….I left college, unable to pay for it. 

 My mother,  daughter of Slave ancestry could not see the benefit of helping me to complete my education because her thinking back then was limited  and poisoned by my sister’s jealousy. 

 Thus  I left college, severly let down….my mother,  daughter of slaves told me to just get a job….My mother could not understand the circumstances that would notw shape my life and her’s forever!

I went to a business school,  I went to Taylor Business Institute!  I learned secretarial skills. ((question–why was I able to get a loan for a trade school and not a college???))

 I was hired by a temp agency and began the long road back to college.  I began paying for my classes one at a time….I was eventually hired full time by J. Michael Bloom Talent Agency. 

 My big mistake was that I got married.  The marriage did not prevent me from being educated…but I began to rearrange my goals around the marriage.  My husband and I did accomplish some goals like buying a house,  and having  a child. 

 My African American husband wanted me to complete college…but coming full circle my husband suffered catastrophic severe skizphrenia and left me with bankruptcy,loss of a home to foreclosure,  and a child to raise.

  I am currently working on a job for the past 19 years that has abosultely NOTHING to do with my original college related goals.  The job  helps pay for food, and rent–barely–. 

 I struggle due to the previous explained debts that I worry about daily. 

 HIND sight is not twenty-twenty for me. 

 I knew that my level of success would not be fulfilled if I could not complete that INTERNSHIP AT CBS AND REGISTER FOR MY CLASSES WHEN I WAS 21 YEARS OLD. 

 However,  not having an educated family,  that would understand the value of an education,  and the financial scarifices required to accomplish that goal…thus here I sit today….BLOGGING…out my frustration. 

My actual, blogging is healthy for me…but it cannot replace the years of economic success I have not ever experienced,  education,  and opportunities that I have missed out on.

  Blogging cannot give me financial power to help cover the debts that HEAP will not help me to pay …because I am just $50 or more dollars over their limit of assistance for a single parent with only 1 (one) child.

  I have been told that I have to have more children to be eligible to receive government assistance. 

The  goal in this article is to explain why SLAVE REPARATIONS would have helped a person like myself. 

 I have been working ever since I had to leave college. 

 Understand that I only left college because I had no money to pay for tuition.  They would not allow me to take a loan….my mother would not refinance her home (which she actually did refinance some years later…so she could make a basment apartment for rental purposes)—I have always pushed to further my education,  I recently partly completed a program NYACK Adult Continuing education–called ORGANIZATIONAL MANAGMENT…I have to pay off about $600.00 and complete three essays to receive my Bachaelor of Science in Organizational Managament. 

 I should have done this two years ago.  So what is the hold up you ask?  I have my child who has been suffering with seizure disorder increasingly over the past two years,  and I also am caring for my mother who has become an invalid and stroke victim over the past 4 years. 

So here I sit.   I am gearing up to complete my 3 essays in the next few weeks and receive my full credit and I can graduate in November of this year. 

I have traveled a long road.  I know there are many others who have traveled a long road as well.

  Do I believe that educational reparations would have helped me….OF COURSE IT WOULD HAVE HELPED ME! 

 My educational goals would not have been tied to my mother’s personal finances..and I would have been able to complete the internship at CBS in Journalism. 

What type of EDUCATIONAL REPARATIONS would I have used you might ask?  Here is my concept of the best form of education reparations for children of ancestral African American Slaves:

  • SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETE AND RECEIVE GED/HIGHSCHOOL DIPLOMA
  • MAINTAIN PASSING GRADES IN COLLEGE
  • TAKE REMEDIAL COURSES TO IMPROVE ACADEMICS AND SUCCESSFULLY PASS ALL REMEDIAL COURSES
  • NO—-TERM LIMITS ON EDUCATION
  • STUDENTS MUST ENROLL IN COLLEGE CONSEQUTIVELY—UNLESS EMERGENCY IN FAMILY,  MEDICAL PROBLEMS, FINANCIAL CIRCUMSTANCES TO BE EVALUATED BY REPARATIONS COMMITTEE ON ACADEMIC REPARATIONS
  • SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETE BACHELOR OF any ACCREDITED COLLEGE,  IVY LEAGUE,  CITY,  STATE COLLEGE PROGRAM
  • SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETE ANY INTERNSHIP PROGRAM
  • SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETE ANY TRADE PROGRAM:  ELECTRICAL, PLUMBING, TRUCKING, NURSING, CAR REPAIR AND DESIGN, ETC.,
  • SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETE PROGRAMS AND HAVE ACADEMIC GOALS,  AND JOB BOOKLET ON PERSONAL/INDIVIDUAL ASSESEMENT, and RESUME– COMPLETED AT THE END OF EACH SEMESTER.
  • MAINTAIN ATLEAST A — C– AVERAGE…WITH  EXPLANATION OF GRADES AND RESTRAINTS  AND DETAILING PROBLEMS RELATED TO COMPLETION OF ACADEMIC GOALS TO BE EVALUATED DIRECTLY BY ACADEMIC REPARATIONS COMMITTEE.
  • FULL TUITION PAYMENT FOR ALL AFRCIAN AMERICAN SLAVE DECENDANTS
  • FULL TUTITION FOR BACHELOR,  MASTERS PROGRAMS.
  • FULL TUTITION PAID FOR DOCTORATE AFTER PROVIDING 4OOO HOURS OF MENTORING,  PROJECT GIVE BACK, AND EACH ONE TEACH ONE PROGRAMS FOR SUMMER YOUTH AND YOUNG MOTHER PROGRAMS.
  • FULL TUTITION PAYMENTS FOR 2ND BACHELOR DEGREE FOR 7000 HOURS OF MENTORING, PROJECT GIVE BACK, AND EACH ONE TEACH ONE PROGRAMS TO BE DEVELOPED BY THE AFRICAN AMERICAN REPARATIONS PROGRAM.  
  • ALL CANDIDATES MUST SUBMITT DOCUMENTED PROOF OF 3000 HOUR AND 7000 HOUR GIVE BACK AND MENTORING PROGRAMS INORDER TO BE ELIGIBLE  FOR DOCTORATE PROGRAMS AND 2ND DEGREE PROGRAMS.
  • ALL GRADUATES ARE REQUIRED TO GIVE 100 HOURS YEARLY TO TALKS AT ELEMENTARY EDUCATION,  JUNIOR HIGHSCHOOL EDUCATION, HIGHSCHOOL EDUCATION,  AND  COLLEGE PROGRAMS FOR MENTORING AND PASSING ON THE LEGACY OF THE BENEFITS OF EDCUATION AND TAKING THE RESPONSIBILITY OF REPARATIONS AND BECOMING SUCCESSFUL IN ATTAINING ACADEMIC GOALS THAT ARE A STANDARD OF EXCELLENCE IN THE AFRiCAN AMERICAN SLAVE DESCENDANTS.

This is my concept of proper reparations.  I would abide by these rules so that I could have the opportunities to pass on the goals and future that keep America growing and great. 

We as a American Citizens do not need a hand out!  We need a hand UP! Help me to educate myself so that I can help continue the legacy of Pride in the United States as a Super Power in the World.  Help me to educate myself  so that I can give back to the generations to come.

As it stands right now…I can only give this blogg!!!!

  I could do so much more if my education was free…but with RESPONSIBILTY AND DEFINITELY STRINGS ATTACHED.  The type of strings attached will cause success in the future decendants of slaves…but those decendants would eventually be called desendants of SUCCESSFULL AFRICAN AMERICANS WHO HAVE MENTORED, AND GAVE BACK, THEREBY ASSISTING THE UNITED STATES TO MAINTAIN ITS ECONOMIC STRENGTH,  EDUCATIONAL POWER,  LITERACY,  AND GROWTH IN THE WORLD. 

WITH EDUCATION….COMES AN EMPOWERED WORKFORCE THAT CAN STRENGTHEN THE ECONOMY…..CRIME BASED ON ECNOMICS WILL GO DOWN IN MINORITY COMMUNITIES,  BLACK MALES WILL BE INSPIRED TO GATHER RESOURCES AND BECOME MORE SUCCESSFUL AND STRONG.  YOUNG WOMEN WILL GATHER RESOURCES AND BECOME MORE SUCCESSFUL AND STRONG.

The program of reparations needs to be looked at. 

 It may take many years for it to come about. 

 MOst likely not in my life time,  or even my child’s  life time. 

 But the concept does need to be addressed. 

 Maybe my concepts are not all acceptable… there may be better methods of ACADEMIC REPARATIONS.

IN CONCLUSION:

DO NOT GIVE ME THE FORTY ACRES AND AN MULE….

I WANT A FREE….RESPONSIBILITY ACADEMIC BASED REPARATION FOR DESCENDANTS OF AFRICAN SLAVES. 

(((JOBS WILL COME WITH AN EDUCATED WORK FORCE!!!))) 

 NOTE…MANY EUROPEAN COUNTRIES MAKE EDCUATION FREE  FOR ALL!!!!

REPARATIONS ON AN ACADEMIC LEVEL WILL IMPROVE  THE QUALITY OF LIFE AND ECONOMIC STANDING OF THE UNITED STATES AS A SUPER POWER  AND ALSOIN THE GLOBAL ECONOMY AS WELL.

“`RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY

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WHERE IS MISS JONES IN THE MORNING YO!??????

 

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

 

 

Was yesterday for REAL?  Did Ms. Jones….Hot 97 officically sign off the radio?  What was that all about?  I was driving and listening to Ms. Jones and she and DJ Envy was talkin’ some stuff about this is their last show and all like that?  What did I miss these past few weeks?  I mean, like, you know,  Ms. Jones was making all kinda Jokes about Wendy Williams when the EEO drama came up…and NOW???!!!  What happened to Ms. Jones? 

But then it seemed like a joke or somethin’…because she was sayin’ that they were having a good-bye hello party someplace…and then she said that she will have her own television show on BET!!!!  WOW!  GOOD LOOK MS. JONES…YOU GO GIRL!!!!!

ALL JOKES ASIDE!  I am happy for both SHOCK JOCKS..WENDY WILLIAMS AND MS. JONES!  THEY  ARE ANSWERING TO THE COMMUINTY OF YOUNG PEOPLE AND THEIR MUSIC!  WENDY OF COURSE IS A gossipnesta….Diva of how to draw out celebs and their personal ish….Ms. Jones is good at being very hip, very ghetto, very aware of community issues..i.e. Sean Bell.  (For example,  Ms. Jones had been on the radio that next day after the court  case was settled regarding Sean Bell,  but she allowed her audience to really,  really vent!  Even Ms.  Jones Vented.  She vented so much that she actually used the forbidden “N” word on a caller.  I was like “Wow”!  She really had CAUGHT SOME FEELIN’S ABOUT that case and she expressed it very clearly although very ghetto in delivery. )

So getting back to her new television show….Let us see who will beat who in the ratings!  Wendy Williams with her querky,  supersize me,  size 12 toes and super highheeled shoes….also extreme hairstyles and over the top HOW YOU DOIN’S—VERSUS  Ms. Jones with her Shananay sounding straight from the hood, candy store going,  girl around the way voice and delivery….with side kicks D.J. Envy,  etc….Good luck Ladies…and keep pushing it….so that other youngsters coming up will follow behind in the roads that you  will pave for future Radio/TV personalities!

Nope…you guys will NEVER BE OPRA!!!!  But you just might beat out Tyra Banks talk show ….for sure….Especially Ms. Jones.

Ms. Jones has her heart, and her hear to the streets.  Suddenly Wendy seems to have NO PATIENCE WITH EXTREMELY GHETTO….DONKEY TYPE FOLKS….AS SHE AND side kick Charlemane state.  Wendy hangs up because she just ‘CAN’T’—

nO MATTER WHAT….DO WELL…..SPEAK WELL….AND BATTLE IT UP LADIES…JUST BATTLE IT UP!!!!  BUT NO HOOD NONSENSE PLEASE…REMEMBER AMERICA IS WATCHING YOU….FOLKS YOU LEAST EXPECT WILL BE WATCHING….JUST KEEP A GOOD BALANCE BETWEEN JOKES,  AND STUFF.

Ms. Jones said her show will be on BET in September……wow!  she will have to bring hard to catch up to Wendy’s steam….based on how Wendy does for those 6 weeks on Fox Den Bar  Cable.

Oh, an by the way…..NO MORE TRYING TO HURT ONE ANOTHER….HUH LADIES?  PLAY NICE……OKAY!?

Charlemane…be nice to Ms. Wendy….she done had a tough year chile!—Charlemane….dance with Ms. Wendy and you do not have to say HOW YOU DO’IN?! iF YOU DO NOT WANT TO….JUST DO THAT LITTLE DANCE “LITTLE MAN”—IT JUST SOUNDS CUTE ON RADIO….LAWD,  KNOWS HOW IT’S GONNA LOOK ON TV!!!!

So is Ms. Jones really off the radio though?  Can  anyone out there tell me?

Wendy did not loose anything….she still got her radio show and also gets a TV show too!—-Hi—haters!

Wendy Gurl….stay strong and do it…..as you say Wendy—-Go hard or go home!

And Ms. Jones…you stay strong and stay you!!!!

fini!!!~~~riveroflifelisajoy!

THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM….REFLECTIONS ON WENDY WILLIAMS JUNE 20, 2008 BROADCAST

 Open http://www.sitchin.com/elephant.htm in a new window.

 

image of elephant taken from aol.com

Wendy has a laugh that is sometimes forced….sound of happiness?  Sound of pre-tend fun?  Sound of real enjoyment when you are tickeled pink by a “funny”.  I am not sure.  Sometimes it sounds that she is laughing at herself.  That is okay…I do that sometimes too. 

Yesterday Wendy and Charlemane sat on the radio and talked about her up coming show and going to LA to get ready for her show on July 14, 2008.  Wendy talked about people going into her office (PINK ROOM) her frig and taking bottles of  her  LIQUOR. 

 She discussed putting locks on the frig…Charlmane told how he sits quietly in the morning and people come in and take things.  They made references to the cleaning lady  and their security guards which created the ELEPHANT INTHE ROOM syndrome and huge laughter erupted and they giggled toward the end of the show.  Charlemane even made reference to SUPERMAN RAPPER…and IceTea issues and then they went off air at 7:00. 

So Wendy is still here folks….making jokes about the Elephant in the room.  Wendy has made statements that she has suffered for trying to have a family like atmosphere with her staff. 

 She vowed to never have a closeknit group of interns and staff ever again on Thursday… 

She made reference to her having a pole up her you know what because of her being SO GIVING and understanding of her work staff.

  She said she wants to keep everyone working for her on a formal basis and never again allow anyone to get that close to her.

I listened and wondered, how many of us on regular jobs have allowed people to come home with us….only to find out that our private lives become public when that co-worker gets back to work. 

Every smiling face HAS TEETH…PEOPLE! 

 I could relate very well to that view on life.  Some people might say that is being very negative….

I reserve the right to choose my friends. 

 Just because you work with someone and have a close working relationship does not mean that you should bring these people into your personal lives…

There is no  contract available that will prevent someone from making your personal private business public. 

Hey,  even the pastor of my church told me (when I explained that I am so tired and unable to function on the level of cleaning in my house) …..

…..”IF YOU DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR ….NO  ONE  WILL COME IN….DO NOT INVITE PEOPLE IN YOUR HOUSE…AND YOU CLEAN HOUSE WHEN YOU ARE READY….JUST DO NOT OPEN YOUR DOOR!…..

I laughted a hearty laugh when the pastor said that to me….because I knew exactly what he meant.  So I hope Wendy Williams learns that same thing. 

 Your private business is just that….PRIVATE….Keep your marriage, children,  hurts, shames,  angers, illnesses,  financial problems to yourself and you may find that you will not get so many hard stares…

And definitely do not allow co-workers to visit your home to see you argue or fuss with your mate, and  children.  Everybody has eyes, ears, mouth and a nose. 

 Learn from Wendy to protect your privacy and  your family as well. kEEP THAT elephant out of your house too.

Tell people of your victories…but not of every defeat…..they don’t care….they just want to have something to gossip about.

Well,   Till next blog…..

RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY~!

Breaking News!!!!—-WWWWWEEEEEENNNNNNDDDDDYYYYYYYY WILLIAMS!!!!! TELEVISION TALK SHOW IS COMING!!! ****FOX TELEVISION ENTERTAINMENT~~~~DEN MAR MERCURY PRODUCERS~~~ LIONS GATE ENTERTAINMENT SHOW will air ON JULY 14, 2008 ******NEW YORK, DETROIT, L.A. CALIFORNIA, and DALLAS TEXAS!!!!! WOW!!!!

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I just heard this on the WENDY WILLIAMS EXPERIENCE @ WBLS 107.5–at about 5:00 p.m.  that on July 14, 2008  Wendy will air her Cable Talk Show on Fox T.V.

 She is going to rise like the phoenix! 

You have got to believe in yourself no matter how the odds are stacked against you!!!!! 

 Her talk show is going to happen! 

“So Wendy….keep up the good work. 

 Stay out of trouble.  Watch your conduct and that of those you love around you. “

 “Don’t give in to negativity.  Reach out for help when you need it and go for it girl…GO FOR IT GIRL!!!!!”

The DEN MAR MECURY~~~LIONSGATE GROUP  IS REPONSIBLE FOR SUCH PROGRAMS AS “FAMILY FEUD,”   “SOUTH PARK,”  AND TYLER PERRY’S WORKS OF ART –MOST RECENTLY “DADDY’S LITTLE GIRLS,”  AND “WHY DID  I  GET MARRIED” !!!!!!!  WOW!!!!!   Wendy has walked into the top market in media!   

She announced this around 5:00 p.m.  with the blockbuster sound effects!  

 Charlemane her side kick read the information on her up coming talk show. 

But also….like I said in previous blogs…..WENDY’S  MOVIE IS GOING TO BE RELEASED SOON!

….So for all those out to say the NEGATIVE  all the time…..back up and look up at the next new   celebrity in media!!!!!    Wendy Williams!!!!  

 Charlemane explained that  Wendy’s Talk Show will be on Cable of Course…..FOX ENTERTAINMENT…. Den Mar Mecury  ~~~LionsGate —This as Charlemane explained it is for 4  WEEKS in  July.  Starting on July 14, 2008.  This is the pilot program and it will take a several week break and then return and go NATIONAL!!!!!

Wendy’s  husband will also be included in the deal….according to the communication read by Charlemane!!!!  —-So again….Hot 97 crew,  and all NAY SAYERS!!!!—-WHERE IS YOUR SINDICATED TELEVISION TALK SHOW?   START WORKING ON YOUR FUTURE AND YOU CAN BE LIKE YOUR  CO- JOURNALIST—SHOCK JOCK ACROSS THE DIAL.  

*************AS  MY GRANDFATHER WAS KNOWN TO SAY…..50%  OF YOUR LIFE IS SPENT MINDING YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND THE OTHER 50%  IS SPENT LEAVING OTHER PEOPLE’S  BUSINESS ALONE!!!!!!********

That may not always apply to journalists,  shock jocks, and gossip columnists though—-but keep it in mind….It may save you from  alot of  problems in life….

Any way back to Wendy Williams Experience!   Good Fortune and enjoy….the rest of us will be watching!

OH,  AND BY THE BY….Ms. Jones in the morning….try to inspire your co-journalist!

MINISTER JUANITA BYNUM AND SHOCK JOCK WENDY WILLIAMS OF WBLS 107.5–WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO WHEN IT COMES TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

Before I proceed allow me to explain.  It is important to understand this one major point.  NO WOMAN SHOULD BE ABUSED FOR ANY REASON AT ALL!  NO HUMANBEING SHOULD BE ABUSED FOR ANY REASON AT ALL!

   Now,  I will proceed.  I looked at the blogs and news paper articles on Minister Juanita Bynum and her marriage abuse/domestic violence episode that is ripping her marriage and ministry. 

Then I looked at Wendy Williams of the Wendy Williams Experience, and her EEO case with Nicole Spence involving her husband Kevin Hunter and –the domestic violence episodes that are threatening her very lucrative career. 

 I began to wonder.  Wendy has a following of faithful listeners, and Juanita Bynum has a following of faithful listeners TOO! 

Strange huh?!  Except Wendy does not preach the Gospel. 

 Wendy has a daily four hour show that goes from  2:00 P.M. until 7:00 P.M. .  Juanita Bynum has a church,  has CDs,  DVD’s for sale,  she tours the country and many, many other options for reaching her flock of faithful followers! 

 The obvious similarity is that they are both HIGH POWERED TYPE- A- PERSONALITY BLACK WOMEN! 

Who can rival them?—–THEIR HUSBANDS! 

 Both Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum are both powerful black women that stand tall and stong in their own work and careers.

 Yet they are challenged by the problems of domestic violence in their home ((((which is being displayed publicly))) despite their efforts to keep private pain private. 

 Why are their husband’s possibly challenging these two strong women in their careers? 

Why would  the  husbands  of these two very opposite…yet equally powerful and influential women–  allow their private marital behavior jeopardize their very successful wives in the year 2007 and 2008? 

  Let us think for a  moment….As  African Decent  women,  Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum have come a long way and have taken the lead within the black community in the United States, and possibly even in the world and the “global economy!” **Not to mention Ophra of course***

 Wendy Williams was broadcasting from California today!  She attracts all walks of life,  despite her sporadic rants about “white people” and her blackness.

  She recently complained about how her son’s Montclair New Jersey school district have suggested that the children wear “green” for  St. Patricks Day.  But when she had inquired as to what the children could wear for “Black History Month,” or “Martin Luther King Day”….she was flatly told that there was nothing that the children could wear for such annual events in American Society. 

 So Wendy did not say that she would not have her son wear green….or wait a minute …my mind is not clear if she was against him actually wearing the green but I remember Wendy Williams  stating “I have a plan for that day.”   This is a strong woman. 

 She maintains her “HOW YOU DON’IN”  AND “Hee Haw”  for the “Donkey People (folks who do not know how to avoid being used and abused, and coming back for more…or the people  who “steal” other people’s mates etc., etc.,)  But as she states….”At the end of the day …I am a mother and a wife!” 

That is why this whole circumstance of the domestic violence and the Nicole Spence EEO issue  has floored me. 

That is why I looked at Juanita Bynum,  whose “No More Sheets” sermon stirred so many Christian and Non-Christian Believers to stop taking less in life; stop taking less in their personal relationships; and take back from the devil what he stole from them….their pride,  their self esteem,  their will to live,  their joy…..etc., etc..

Believe it or not….Wendy Williams and Juanita Bynum have alot in common….They just reach people in a different way.  Juanita Bynum preaches and uses scripture and Wendy Williams uses a SideKick  Charlemene. Wendy Williams also uses her various interactive draws called  Dons and Divas Dances, and  even children in events for Easter  (last year  2007). 

 I did not hear anything about a children Dons and Divas Kiddie affair for 2008—I might have missed it.  Sound Effects,  Ghetto Street Talk, Alternative Life style talk and various genres of communication to preach her message of intelligence. 

 Wendy always tries to tell those who feel like misfits in the current society that they will be accepted on her show. 

 Now,  unfortuneately   I have seen, and heard about the Christian Church…not so nice things on the level of accepting the”misfits of society” based on religious reasons….(((despite Jesus reprimand  of men who wanted to stone the harlot woman for her sins….

Jesus said, “He without sin cast the first stone….and No one cast the stone….they all walked away ashamed.”  Jesus truly turned to the harlot woman and told her to “Go and sin no more,  your sins are forgiven!”  Sometimes this verse is very seldom discussed or preached….I wonder why? 

Well,  any way….I will continue this further later on. 

 But just think about it for a minute….The two women I am comparing and contrasting here are both black,  high powered…..and very, very, very famous in the black community for different reasons…yet they both suffer from domestic violence. 

 But my question still remains….Is it the  effects of the power and the fame on the marriage that causes the stress and the strain? 

 Did these two women,  or other women  permit themselves to stay in bad marriages, or abusive relationships in order to maintain that appearance of SUCCESS to the OUTSIDE WORLD AT LARGE?

 To many Christians,   it does not seem proper to have a broken marriage after telling people how “Jesus can set the sinner free from bondage to death, hell and the grave.” 

It looks odd that Jesus is seemingly unable to prevent two Christians from breaking up, or fighting with each other over serious or silly issues.

  Personality conflicts,  irreconsilible differences that legal documents site for marriage break ups…seem strange in the Christain faith…because we are suppose to look beyond our differences and look at what fits the marriage like glue….JESUS!  

So that is  possibly why the Powerful Juanita Bynum and her abusive marriage/domestic violent episode  is rocking the Christian Church and is so very painful and humiliating to watch, and hear about in the media. 

We want Jesus to fix it.  But see,  it has to be fixed within the two people….they have to both be willing….they have to release the issues that have bound them and then open themselves to healing. 

How difficult is that for such a Powerful Preacher Juanita Bynum and her Powerful preacher husband?

With Wendy Williams,  the struggle is severe but also it takes a different turn.  Wendy’s job as a Radio Shock Jock Journalist, is one in which she constantly opens the private lives of well known celebrities to public view through discussion, or interview. 

Now, listen,  Wendy always states….”I did not do the actual research….I only repeated what I read National Enquirer or  “Life and Style” Magazine.  So you can’t say I had an insider tell me and I let the cat out of the bag.”—Wendy Williams…(paraphrase only) 

No,  but she does discuss celebrity gossip as a major part of her show ~~~~just like I am writing about and comparing and contrasting her and Juanita Bynum. 

 If you do not pass gossip along…then you are not a gossiper….but if you join in on the chain of lies…or truths…or whatever they be….you then cannot say that you are not part of the problem….can you? 

 Example,  Britney Spears personal struggles have been so hightlighted by the media that every body knows that Britney Spears may go out on the town with out underwear on ….to night clubs etc.  How do we all know about that? 

  Because the media gossip columnist and Rag Mags,  and Shock Jocks on the radio, and even the regular news channels are constantly showing pictures, or describing  Britney Spears even doing mundane activities like shopping with a friend.

Thus  Wendy Williams is being trashed by her rivals for being a gossip shock jock and now she is embroiled in her own personal dilemmas. 

 So her rivals on Hot 97 are jumping up and down at her troubles and  Wendy is catching the Heat!  

 Wendy is catching the heat like no one else…except Janet Jackson did after her “wardrobe malfunction” during that football game a couple of years ago. Perfect lovable Janet Jackson made a big mistake and it took several years to live it down. 

 The public is not very forgiving of its’  “American Idols”–so it seems.  Thus the troubles of Wendy Williams—high powered black woman in a high stakes position in the radio and television media/journalism industry….So again I ask…

.Why would her also “black” husband not realize the opportunity they both have to pave the road for young minorities of all races….are the issues in the marriage that severe or that trivial?

  It is like being at the top of a mountain….Let’s say Mount Everest….a very tall mountain upon which you can see the future….and yet you worry about a splinter in your finger!

  To remedy that splinter is easy….but that distance you wish to travel will be a long, long road filled with bumps, valleys, dark places, and bogs….so move forward and not look back.

  It is sad to see our hopefuls that give our youth vision….for the Old Testament states….”Without a Vision the People Perish!” 

  So that is why I  focused on these two women and the men they are married to.  Do they not realize that their lives have impacted on so many generations  to come?  Probably not.

The problem I have with domestic violence is that it appears that the man (any man)  who either rapes a woman,  or beats a woman….uses those extreme methods to have POWER over a situation inwhich the man feels powerless. This is a difficult issue to say the least.

What do you think?

Riveroflifelisajoy

She’s Back! Wendy Williams of the Wendy Williams Experience- DA DA DA DAAAAA! The Queen of All Media! Sounds Positive and Strong

Today while driving and thinking on my own personal issues I switched from  Hot 97 for HIP/HOP music and checked in on Wendy!  Well,  despite the issues of the Nicole Spence complaint Wendy is still on the air. 

 She sounds like herself, and she and Charlemagne are Yuck, yuck,  yucking it Up!  Talking about advice hour, and Wendy answering her own telephones. 

 It seemed almost like nothing negative had ever been talked about on Hot 97 from jealous Ms. Jones.  It seemed like the shocking news had never been.  And I wished it were true.  But through it all Wendy has stood tall. 

 The first few days she appeared stressed and let her listening audience know it.  She really does talk to her audience.  Yesterday Wendy stated,  “I don’t trust people!”  I silently agreed with her in my head for my own reasons. 

 I hope that she deals honestly with her situation.  You know….she is like the “friend in  my head” radio personality.  Although I would probably never tell anybody some of the things she has been known to say or discuss. 

Wendy would ask the questions I would never ask.   Some or many of  Wendy ‘s  opinions I do not agree with but are food for thought on alot of levels.  You can learn from just about any body.   But anyway,  I digress….So Wendy and Charlemagne sounded like their old selves today. 

Thank G-d for second,  third, and fourth chances….uh….Howard Stern……uh….Don Imus….uh Shock Jock that harressed Hot 97 side kick of Ms. Jones in the morning….(what is that guy’s name anywhooo?) 

Think about it fellow bloggers….

Till next time

riveroflifelisajoy

P.S.  Maybe Tyler Perry should write a play about  Black Journalist, and the lives they live….Oh,  forgot….Wendy  has her own  movie coming out!  —When is that movie set?   Summer time seems like a good idea?!

I  can’t wait to see that movie about Wendy Williams and her life.  Ca’mon Ms. Jones @ Hot 97….make your movie too!    Get  moving!   Maybe even get a  perfume deal too!

LOLOL!   Till next blog…..

WENDY’S BREAKS HAVE BEEN CUT SHORT? –Wendy Williams and the continuing EEO dispute

I was listening today as I went about my daily personal errands and I heard Wendy Williams and Charlemange.  I was annoyed because I heard this Old School R & B Music. 

 Wendy interviewed Robert Verdie, (some high haute fashion guy).  They had quick banter and silly jokes and some discussion on fashion and designe.  Quite boring.  Suddenly Wendy states,  “Talk fast,  they cut my breaks and I have to play more music!”  I felt rushed and frustrated! 

 I heard Wendy stated before a this celebrity interview that Wendy was asking on air about an apothercery in her commuinty.  I wondered why Wendy would ask for something in her neighborhood on the air like that. 

Why would you do that?  Even her side kick seemed uncomfortable with her highlighting her  neigborhood.  Strange I thought. 

 I began to worry about Wendy.  Although she is accused of committing and EEO violation —I do not think that she is beyond reproach like IMUS.  I do not think anybody knows where Howard Stern,  or Don Imus live. Please take care and continue to highlight the funny stuff and the celebrity gossip that you do so well!