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HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS!

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

I may not be able to afford certain things like cable tv, or direct tv…but I take my son to the park and help him to train toward tennis scholarships! Also he wants to work on competitive tennis. 
 So I go with him and toss the ball at him fast, slow,  low to the grow and high in the air.  So what am I telling you?  I just try to help as much as I can. 

 

 

Some people like to tell me to stop focusing on my kid so much.  But you know what?   If I do not help him now…he may not be able to support himself or his future wife and kids.  So what is wrong with being there now? 

Oh,  some people have told me…you need to keep yourself happy.  Look,  when I am past the age of 48 that I am now….I would hate to have to look back and see that I did not do all I could to help my child acheive. 

 Hey,  everybody has a diferent reason for what they do in life. 

 I am sitting here blogging….so am I totally consumed with my  son 24 hours a day?????  OF COURSE NOT!  My son plays tennis with other people.  I do not actually play the game. 

I am there to help him to stay focused on the actual training. 

 How do you think Tiger Woods and Venus and Serena made it to the top of their sports and careers?

The parents helped those kids stay focused and  become the men and women that they are today. 

Last week ( at the Kids Day in Queens of the USOPEN)   Serena won $15,000.00 for  a charity that she began her own name…to give back to the community. 

 So all of the effort that  the father of Venus and Serena Williams (Tennis Champions)  placed and focused on helping the two young ladies paid off and it now helps others!

—–  So when my son  gets up to play…I am about 200 to 300 feet away from him.  I also am either shopping, or checking in on my mother…reading a newspaper,  or talking to other parents. 

 My son has to come to his own conclusions about his goals and dreams.

  I AM ONLY A FACILITATOR!!!!!

I drive my son to the golf course in Dyker Brooklyn to the children’s golf course.  I take him to the SPORTS AUTHORITY  look at tennis rackets,  tennis clothing,  golf clubs,  etc.  I take him to Barns and Nobles for books for school,  and reading material.  I drive him to competitions,  and to coaching lessons.  But  the rest is up to him.

So is that wrong?   Hey,  look,  my child did not ask to be born.  My child was a WANTED CHILD!~  I was legally married to my husband for 5 years before I finally got pregnant. 

I have not had any other pregnancies,  or any other husbands.  Soooo for me to sacrifice….is absolutely nothing.  My child  could not raise himself. 

 When you have a child you have to consider atleast….20 years or so to help him or her get educated,  have food,  shelter,  training how to live in this life,  and be able to get a job or career. 

 So for me it will not be the EMPTY NEST SYNDROME….it will be happiness that I gave as much as I could to help someone to accomplish his goals. 

 If he turns around and changes his mind about his goals,  and throws it all away…he cannot blame me.—for I have given all of myself to him to become a man… of stature and respect. 

 If he turns his back on whatever ideals and concepts that have been carefully taught   to  him….I will bare no shame in this….it will be his  choice as a man. 

But if I turn away now…as he just enters  his 10th grade in highschool and is finishing his 15th year of life…then I will be to blame.

My selfishness will begin later.  So right now…I enjoy blogging!  Is there anything wrong with that?  I am on vacation…when I express my views here with you.

So that is why I challenge all of us parents…focus on HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS…YOU WILL NOT REGRET HONEST HARD WORK….AND PURE LOVE GIVEN TO YOUR CHILDREN.

Remember..even Vice President  hopeful Elect Palin has 5 children  and her oldest daughter who is 17 is pregnant according to the news reports on 1010 Wins and AOL NEWS MEDIA,  she fully supports them in all that they do. She supports her 17 year old daughter in her goals for herself and soon to be new family.

 

 The most important thing is keeping an OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN.  NO MATTER WHAT! 

That will mean your children should come to you with whatever the  condition is.

  It is not easy to do that.  I know.  I am a single parent. 

 I want the best for my son…but I also know that no one’s kid is an angel.  So pray with your kids, and love them…just as the Lord above loves you and forgives you of all your mistakes daily….correct?

Remember no one is perfect,  and  everyone makes mistakes. 

Love your kids….love yourself and don’t be too hard on your kids or yourself. 

 You and your family will live happier,  and longer lives.  TOGETHER!!!

till next blog….

RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY!~

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LOVE!

 

MEMORIES OF LOVE AND LIFE LESSONS

MEMORIES OF LOVE AND LIFE LESSONS

 

 The breeze feels good on my legs as I stand at the fence.

I stand and look down the block

waiting for you to come home from

work

I think about your smile,

your frown,

I want to be near you right now

I am wishing the moments away.

It is now an hour past your time to

arrive home.

“Where are you?”

I begin to worry,

I begin to walk and pace

I cannot wait.

Did you work late?

Was the train slow tonight?

Was I on the telephone and did not

hear the call interrupt signal?

I hear foot steps…

No,  those are not yours

I go back into the

kitchen  and begin to

reheat the food.

I looked in the bedroom

and I see your bag for work on the floor?!

My heart jumps…but you are not there.

I remember that you had left it there this morning

I want to die….

I want to live

I want you HOME!

A strange moment of

fear, and

then,

the key is in the lock at the

front door…

I run, and jump into

your arms.

Wild Flowers…you remember are

my favorites!

I love you, I love you my mouth tells your

mouth as we embrace and kiss…

Not  wanting to let go….I hug and hug until you

pry my longing arms from round your strong, neck.

I love you scent of cocoa butter mixed with colonge….although

you need to take a shower….I am intoxicated by your scent….My man,  my love

You gather yourself and go to the bedroom and

I follow like a humble obediant puppy dog

But then you change your mind and go back out into the kitchen and

take a deep wif of my reheated shrimp and rice.

You take your strong arms and wrap them around my waist

and hug me long and bury your head in

my shoulder and let out a deep sigh.

It sent shivers up my spine…

YOu have done this before, but it excites me that

you  still enjoy the pleasure of s simple hug,  and deep sigh….

After dinner we talk about plans, problems and the issues of life,

but your spirit is humble, and peaceful.,

We do not argue..we think, we ponder,  we discuss and

come to points of logic within our small family….

I love you,  I love you,  I love you!~~~~

recollections of life and love by RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY~