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HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS!
UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY
Some people like to tell me to stop focusing on my kid so much. But you know what? If I do not help him now…he may not be able to support himself or his future wife and kids. So what is wrong with being there now?
Oh, some people have told me…you need to keep yourself happy. Look, when I am past the age of 48 that I am now….I would hate to have to look back and see that I did not do all I could to help my child acheive.
Hey, everybody has a diferent reason for what they do in life.
I am sitting here blogging….so am I totally consumed with my son 24 hours a day????? OF COURSE NOT! My son plays tennis with other people. I do not actually play the game.
I am there to help him to stay focused on the actual training.
How do you think Tiger Woods and Venus and Serena made it to the top of their sports and careers?
The parents helped those kids stay focused and become the men and women that they are today.
Last week ( at the Kids Day in Queens of the USOPEN) Serena won $15,000.00 for a charity that she began her own name…to give back to the community.
So all of the effort that the father of Venus and Serena Williams (Tennis Champions) placed and focused on helping the two young ladies paid off and it now helps others!
—– So when my son gets up to play…I am about 200 to 300 feet away from him. I also am either shopping, or checking in on my mother…reading a newspaper, or talking to other parents.
My son has to come to his own conclusions about his goals and dreams.
I AM ONLY A FACILITATOR!!!!!
I drive my son to the golf course in Dyker Brooklyn to the children’s golf course. I take him to the SPORTS AUTHORITY look at tennis rackets, tennis clothing, golf clubs, etc. I take him to Barns and Nobles for books for school, and reading material. I drive him to competitions, and to coaching lessons. But the rest is up to him.
So is that wrong? Hey, look, my child did not ask to be born. My child was a WANTED CHILD!~ I was legally married to my husband for 5 years before I finally got pregnant.
I have not had any other pregnancies, or any other husbands. Soooo for me to sacrifice….is absolutely nothing. My child could not raise himself.
When you have a child you have to consider atleast….20 years or so to help him or her get educated, have food, shelter, training how to live in this life, and be able to get a job or career.
So for me it will not be the EMPTY NEST SYNDROME….it will be happiness that I gave as much as I could to help someone to accomplish his goals.
If he turns around and changes his mind about his goals, and throws it all away…he cannot blame me.—for I have given all of myself to him to become a man… of stature and respect.
If he turns his back on whatever ideals and concepts that have been carefully taught to him….I will bare no shame in this….it will be his choice as a man.
But if I turn away now…as he just enters his 10th grade in highschool and is finishing his 15th year of life…then I will be to blame.
My selfishness will begin later. So right now…I enjoy blogging! Is there anything wrong with that? I am on vacation…when I express my views here with you.
So that is why I challenge all of us parents…focus on HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS…YOU WILL NOT REGRET HONEST HARD WORK….AND PURE LOVE GIVEN TO YOUR CHILDREN.
Remember..even Vice President hopeful Elect Palin has 5 children and her oldest daughter who is 17 is pregnant according to the news reports on 1010 Wins and AOL NEWS MEDIA, she fully supports them in all that they do. She supports her 17 year old daughter in her goals for herself and soon to be new family.
The most important thing is keeping an OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN. NO MATTER WHAT!
That will mean your children should come to you with whatever the condition is.
It is not easy to do that. I know. I am a single parent.
I want the best for my son…but I also know that no one’s kid is an angel. So pray with your kids, and love them…just as the Lord above loves you and forgives you of all your mistakes daily….correct?
Remember no one is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes.
Love your kids….love yourself and don’t be too hard on your kids or yourself.
You and your family will live happier, and longer lives. TOGETHER!!!
till next blog….
RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY!~
Where Have I been?
I have been on a journey…
My friend
I have not been lost
intentionally
but a journey of length
and depth has
challenged my
very heart and soul
I have gathered need
and gathered sorrow
My journey leads me
down dark alleys
bright rooms,
painful thoughts
and haunting fears
Tears are worthless
here on my journey
But the tears still come
and roll down my cheeks
like snowballs gathering
size and speed
My nose and face feel clogged
from the emotions spent
on this journey
Come free me my friend
from this torment
But I do not cry for myself
I cry for another
My son, my dear son
What will be?
Sickness again claimed
him on June 24 after
his American History
Regents exam…of which he
did receive an 88!
The victory of his passing
is overshadowed by the
illness that gripped him in
its stealy hands
I wish for him joy,
health, and happines…
I pray for him health, health, and more health
So that has been my journey my friend
Seeking health and strength for
the child of my womb
The child I had prayed for 15 years ago
is in a battle for his life….
So my journey is not a lonely one
but a hard. brittle, prickly one
Where have I been? Right here,
at home, at work, but journey is a battle of
the mind and strength of the
spirit.
JOurney is to walk a walk of faith,
and endurance…
So I have not called you, written you,
but I know you are still there.
I will not go,
while I continue this journey, whose
destination I yet do not know.
-fini-
Riveroflifelisajoy
credit of waterfalls image…from aol journey images
Good Food Receipes for our Hearts! Taken from “46 Healthy SOUL FOOD RECIPES” BY The Stroke Association .org
I was at a job related function the other day, and two very nice ladies came out to give a talk about health and black Americans. The asked us all to be ambassadors for health with them and pass out this information about Black American’s and their heart health. So here goes……
The Booklet called 46 Healthy SoulFood Recipes was edited by Sandra K. Nissenberg, the CEO is Louis Weber, President of the Magazine Division is Jerry l.Croft, and the Editor -in – Chief is James M. O’Connor.
ACCORDING TO AMERICAN HEART/AMERICAN STROKE ASSOCIATION —LEARN AND FACTS AND LIVE!
STROKE TARGETS BY COLOR!!!!
ACCORDING TO AMERICAN HEART ASSOCIATION/AMERICAN STROKE:
KNOW WHERE YOU STAND. THE ODDS ARE AFRICAN AMERICANS ARE TWICE AS LIKELY TO SUFFER A STROKE AS WHITE AMERICANS.
BEATING THE ODDS ISN’T ABOUT WINNING. IT’S ABOUT LIVING!!!
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO END STROKE. CALL: 1-888-4-STROKE/
STROKEASSOCIATION.ORG
(((THESE AND MOST OF THE FACTS IN THIS BLOG ARE TAKEN DIRECTLY FROM THE BOOKLET ON HEALTHY EATING OF SOUL FOOD. I (RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY) HAD PROMISED TO GET THIS INFORMATION OUT TO EVERYBODY. –EVEN AT CHURCH OR MY SON’S TENNIS ACADEMY! SO I MUST ALSO SHARE WITH YOU MY FELLOW BLOGERS AND READERS OF POSTS. I HAVE HIGHBLOOD PRESSURE, AND I HAVE TO MONITOR MY BLOOD PRESSURE JUST AS MANY OF US DO. SO PLEASE TAKE ME SERIOUSLY AND PLEASE ENJOY THE RECEIPES I WILL BE POSTING UNDER THE SAME HEADING THE ONLY DIFFERENCE WILL BE THAT I GIVE A DATE AND STATE THAT IS IS RECEIPE NUMBER ONE ETC.)))
The book on healthy soul food has bright happy pictures and color appetizing food. I will be cooking a meal from this booklet. “Soul Food” has everything from soups, salads, seafood, meats, poultry, vegetarian entrees, vegetables and sides, breads, breakfasts, and of course my favorite….desserts!
I will give you a sample of the food after this quick discussion taken from the Soul Food Receipe book:
FOLLOW THE THREE “R”s TO HELP PROTECT YOURSELF AGAINST STROKE.
- REDUCE your chances of having a stroke by learning the risk factors and working with your doctor.
- RECOGNIZE THE WARNING SIGNS OF STROKE. STROKE IS A MEDICAL EMERGENCY—EVERY SECOND COUNTS!
- RESPOND BY CALLING 911 IMMEDIATELY IF YOU OR SOMEONE NEARBY IS EXPERIENCING THE WARNING SIGNS OF STROKE. THEN CHECK THE TIME THAT THE FIRST SYMPTOMS STARTED. YOU’LL NEED THIS INFORMATION LATER.
FOLLOW THESE TIPS ACCORDING TO THE SOULFOOD BOOKLET:
“How to use these receipes:
To help you with meal planning, each recipe includes a nutrition analysis. The following guidelines give some details about how the analyses are claculated. Use the analyses to help determine how well a certain dish will fit into your overall eating plan.
Eat a variety of nutritious foods from all food groups.
Eat a diet rich in vegetables and fruits.
Choose whole-grain, high-fiber foods.
Eat fish, preferably oily fish, at least twice a week.
Limit foods that are high in calories but low in nutrients,
Limit how much saturated fat, trans fat, and cholestrol you eat.
Cut back on beverages and foods with added sugars.
Choose and prepare foods with little or not salt.
If you drinkalcohol, drink in moderation.
Read nutrition facts labels and ingredients list when you shop.
((According to the booklet on HEALTHY SOULFOOD RECEIPES —–
FOR more information on the updated American Heart Association Dietary and Lifestyle Recommendations, visit americanheart.org.
oKAY….LETS GET TO ATLEAST one RECEIPE TODAY….SHALL WE?
RECIPE #1~~~BLACK-EYED PEA SOUP
1 14.5-ounce can fat-free, low-sodium chicken broth
2 smoked ham hocks (about 1 pound)
16 ounces frozen black-eyed peas
1 14.5-ounce can no-salt-added diced tomatoes
1/4 teaspoon dried thyme, crumbled
1/8 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
1/4 teaspoon salt
In a large sauce pan, bring the broth to a boil over high heat. Stir in the remaining ingredients except the salt. Return to a boil. Reduce the heat and simmer, covered, for 30 minutes, or until the peas are very tender. Remove from the heat.
Stir in the salt. Let stand for 10 minutes so the flavors blend; the standing time is very important in this receipe. Discard the ham hocks before lading the soup into soup bowls.
Per serving: calories 183, Total Fat 1.0 g. Saturated Fat0.0 g. Polyunsaturated Fat 0.5 g. Monounsaturated Fat 0.0g g. Cholesterol 0 mg. Sodium 218 mg. Cabohydrates 34 g. Dietary Fiber 7 g. Sugars 3 g. Protein 12 g.
Dietary Exchanges: 2 starch, 1 vegetable, 1 very lean meat
This is one of many installments of receipes from the “46 Healthy Soul Food Receipes” Booklet from the American Heart Association /American Stroke Association.
Try this receipe and let me know how you liked it! Or better yet, if you have ideas of your own for healthy SOULFOOD cooking…blog it and share it so we can all live heart healthy!
Till next blog,
riveoflifelisajoy!
COTTON MOUTH
Dry like the parchment of the
scroll of a writ
of so long ago
Thousands of years
hid away
Moments in the hands of
an anthropologist
crackling under his
sweaty palms
grasp
the dry old parchment
will melt away
if not put in sealed
archival containers
dry like the old linen dress
of yesteryear
like a ball of cottom in my mouth
the medical diagnosis
has come and gone
and now my sensations are
minimized
except for the diagnosis
pain that is ripping its’
way deep into my heart.
Trying to explain to my
child that he has to
take medication to save his
life.
Cotton mouth,
loss of taste for the
things you love.
Loss of sensation in my
feet and hands
Sitting I type not
feeling, not
wanting to feel the pain
deep searing a tunnel through
my stomach
I feel full,
gas overcomes my belly
cotton mouth
prevents me from
eating
like the fullness of
emptiness I hold
deep in my belly to
unfold until I scream from
pain and agony
Take the truth,
dealt the truth
no compassion
was the final blow
given
lost in a new
hell
fear of the unknown and
the diagonosis compells
the rickety fence of hell to
open and reveal the ominous
cavern that threatens to swallow
us whole
We must proceed my child
we must go in
Cotton mouth,
sweaty palms,
sweaty feet,
sudden compulsion to
release bodily fluids,
fight or flight sydrome
in full affect
compel me oh Lord
toward the light
Let taste return
Cotton Mouth–
I cannot swallow
for the diagnosis
itself is not paletable
The diagnosis was
given with such cold
precision like the blade
of the surgeons knife
Hold my hand my child
walk together we will
toward the tower of hell
but together we will
climb to heaven
despite the steely grasp of the Cotton mouth!
Cross Over
Cross Over and move out the way
Sometimes the river does not
sway, the tide is high and
my spirit is low
I do not want to look back
or let go
What do I say to my child
to day
His love of life has
been challenged,
like a dry twig broken
and chips of it splinter
and fall away
His health is limited
yet a picture of health
is he
So why this sad problem
that plagues me today
The doctor looks cool, and
medical team too serene
Your child has to take
xxxmiligrams and
that is all…
Have a nice day
Go forth, leave the
hospital and jump back
into the stream. river of life
and move on
after this limited 5 day
hospital stay
But wait, I have more questions,
What about the side affects….
“OH, he just might be a bit sleepy…that is all
any way…have a good day!
No, NO! I need to say this, I have to ask
that….do not dismiss me so easily
For I must fight for my child
I must question, and stay longer if
I must
For though you are the doctor…I cannot
entirely trust
for each patient has
different needs, and questions…so let us reason,
let us rationalize before we say our goodbyes!
So again I say dear Doctor
today—crossover from your generalized sermon, and
medical doctrine
Crossover to a parent who is human, and alive..
Because the condition of which you speak
is not simple to me
not simple to my child
just simple medical diagnosis to you
So please….cross over from the cold
cruel world of illness
disease
and speak
Woman to Woman, possibly Mother to Mother
please.
Fini
Riveroflifelisajoy
Controversy of the New Governor Paterson: I Need Parental Guidance for the Latest News Stories! Wow! Threesomes….I never thought such Words would be connected to Elected Officials!
(Jay Jewels “Cry for Humanity”)
I just can not take it anymore! I had heard alot of negative things about Spitzer before this big mess came to the front. All I want to know is this. When he was having these activities where were his security team?
Look, I really do not want to discuss Spitzer. I just want to know why the news papers have to keep making each head line full of words that you do not want to discuss in front of your kids….even your older kids for that matter.
I am very open in discussion with my family on many topics. But the McGreevy issue was so way over the top of my level of existence I was embarressed. I felt like I had a furtive glance over at the dirty magazine section in the subway newsstand! I do not know what the future holds!
What was worse is that today I saw our new Governor’s wife’s foot bottom with her big toe sticking way out from underneath her leg in a yoga pose on the front of the Daily News! Is that really neccesary? Is it required to show every aspect of our elected officials private selves?
I will not have the bottoms of my feet and big toe photographed just to get a private sector or public service job! I just do not get it! Did the legally blind new Governor Paterson cheat on his wife for three years or less?
Why did I have to know about it? I do not believe any one has not cheated …even if it has been emotional cheating. You know what I mean. The type of cheating that involves the phone calls to a good “friend” from work.
You eat lunch with this person and laugh about job issues, get frustrated together, complain about the same stuff and cry on each other’s shoulder when the other does not get that much wanted promotion. YOu know what I mean! That job friend that is of the opposite sex!
Emotional committment….days that person is absent from work…are empty days. Sometimes you might even tell your spouse that you work friend was sick and work slowed up in his or her absence! You just could not hide your emotions about the empty feeling you had all day. So now you mope!
Any way, I digress! The problem I find in all of this open discussion is that after a while everyone will be found guilty! Even today in the AOL Black Voices blog….the mayor of Detroit, who is black is now being told to step down for not telling the truth about his affair!
This had nothing to do with his actual job. But if you have cheated on your spouse, or had an affair you must come clean about it! Or you face being let go under big, big, shame! “THE SCARLET LETTER HAS RETURNED!” —for those of you who are literature buffs!
Do we have to now tell of the crushes we had as little kids, tweens, teenagers, then pets we owned, aunts, uncles, we liked or did not like?
Do we have to tell of the time we accepted a gift and then turned around and regifted it because we lied about how much we liked something and really didn’t? Are there going to be lie detector tests that will analize whether we tell somebody that the dress they brought looks good on them or not and whether we mean it?
Do you have to now double check yourself and your personal relationships before you apply for a job? Where will this end? Public service is truly public isn’t it? I just can’t take it any more.
I do not want to know so much personal information. I want to just know that I can get my taxes lowered, get an increase in my annual pay, go to college cheaper, pay for my dental work cheaper….lose weight safely and go on trips in our free country! Prosititution is not acceptable….definitely not!
But do I have to see Governor Paterson’s wife’s FEET on page #2 of the Daily News? Can we leave nothing private? I never saw Nancy Reagan’s feet, I never saw Hillary Clinton’s feet, I never saw Jimmy Carter’s (President Carter’s) wife’s feet!
So why is Mrs. Paterson’s life so exposed? JUST TOO MUCH INFORMATION!!!!! JUST LOWER THE RATES OF CAR INSURANCE!
LOWER THE RATES OF MORTGAGES! LOWER THE RATES OF HEALTH INSURANCE! LOWER THE RATES OF TOLLS ON THE BRIDGES, LOWER THE PRICE OF FOOD….GET THE MYSTERY GARBARGE ADDITIVES, OUT OF OUR FOOD. STOP GLOBAL WARMING, SAVE THE POLAR BEAR, SAVE THE SEA ANIMALS, STOP DREDGEING THE OCEAN FLOOR AND KILLING OFF THE BARRIER REEFS, STOP OVER FISHING, ETC., ETC., ETC.,!
Can we get back to business please and save the planet and mankind please! The only bare foot I want to see is that of a homeless person getting shoes and socks put on it!
AM I WRONG? PLEASE LET ME KNOW.
Thank you.
—-riverolflifelisajoy
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THE FORCE AND WILL OF CREATION!
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UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY
Who am I you ask?
What are my abilities you wonder.
I have not come this far by your
direction, or by your power.
The higher authority that breathed
life into my frame, who
very much ordained my name
decided…and so it was!
Perception is sometimes powered by
STEROTYPE!
Misconception is sometimes powered
by dislike!
Who am I you ask….
I am the force and the will of creation…
I am the power of the volcano’s eruption
molten lava rolling and burning a path through
everything!
A tornado in all of its thoughtless, callous chaos….twirling
in beauty and destruction without apparent destination, or goals…
intent on devastation…yet in simplistic natural beauty powered by an unseen
machine and engine.
A hurricane large and moving in speeds of one hundred mile an hour winds, ripping trees from their root beds and tossing homes and cars like children’s toys…yet again powered by an unseen mechanical engine of such power as to draw all living and dead into its path.
So who am I you ask?
Incased in this flesh I am mortal, a woman, an individual with thoughts, feelings and ideas.
Yet you perceive me weak, you know….first impressions and all….
But oh, do not be deceived….just as you are ….I see through to your very soul….
we are both
the force and will of creation!
Just as I have and you have the ability to be creative, so do I ….just as you have the ability to be destructive so do I.
I chose life…
what do you choose?
Within me reigns the absolute power to choose—to be the FORCE AND WILL OF CREATION!
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