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HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS!

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

I may not be able to afford certain things like cable tv, or direct tv…but I take my son to the park and help him to train toward tennis scholarships! Also he wants to work on competitive tennis. 
 So I go with him and toss the ball at him fast, slow,  low to the grow and high in the air.  So what am I telling you?  I just try to help as much as I can. 

 

 

Some people like to tell me to stop focusing on my kid so much.  But you know what?   If I do not help him now…he may not be able to support himself or his future wife and kids.  So what is wrong with being there now? 

Oh,  some people have told me…you need to keep yourself happy.  Look,  when I am past the age of 48 that I am now….I would hate to have to look back and see that I did not do all I could to help my child acheive. 

 Hey,  everybody has a diferent reason for what they do in life. 

 I am sitting here blogging….so am I totally consumed with my  son 24 hours a day?????  OF COURSE NOT!  My son plays tennis with other people.  I do not actually play the game. 

I am there to help him to stay focused on the actual training. 

 How do you think Tiger Woods and Venus and Serena made it to the top of their sports and careers?

The parents helped those kids stay focused and  become the men and women that they are today. 

Last week ( at the Kids Day in Queens of the USOPEN)   Serena won $15,000.00 for  a charity that she began her own name…to give back to the community. 

 So all of the effort that  the father of Venus and Serena Williams (Tennis Champions)  placed and focused on helping the two young ladies paid off and it now helps others!

—–  So when my son  gets up to play…I am about 200 to 300 feet away from him.  I also am either shopping, or checking in on my mother…reading a newspaper,  or talking to other parents. 

 My son has to come to his own conclusions about his goals and dreams.

  I AM ONLY A FACILITATOR!!!!!

I drive my son to the golf course in Dyker Brooklyn to the children’s golf course.  I take him to the SPORTS AUTHORITY  look at tennis rackets,  tennis clothing,  golf clubs,  etc.  I take him to Barns and Nobles for books for school,  and reading material.  I drive him to competitions,  and to coaching lessons.  But  the rest is up to him.

So is that wrong?   Hey,  look,  my child did not ask to be born.  My child was a WANTED CHILD!~  I was legally married to my husband for 5 years before I finally got pregnant. 

I have not had any other pregnancies,  or any other husbands.  Soooo for me to sacrifice….is absolutely nothing.  My child  could not raise himself. 

 When you have a child you have to consider atleast….20 years or so to help him or her get educated,  have food,  shelter,  training how to live in this life,  and be able to get a job or career. 

 So for me it will not be the EMPTY NEST SYNDROME….it will be happiness that I gave as much as I could to help someone to accomplish his goals. 

 If he turns around and changes his mind about his goals,  and throws it all away…he cannot blame me.—for I have given all of myself to him to become a man… of stature and respect. 

 If he turns his back on whatever ideals and concepts that have been carefully taught   to  him….I will bare no shame in this….it will be his  choice as a man. 

But if I turn away now…as he just enters  his 10th grade in highschool and is finishing his 15th year of life…then I will be to blame.

My selfishness will begin later.  So right now…I enjoy blogging!  Is there anything wrong with that?  I am on vacation…when I express my views here with you.

So that is why I challenge all of us parents…focus on HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS…YOU WILL NOT REGRET HONEST HARD WORK….AND PURE LOVE GIVEN TO YOUR CHILDREN.

Remember..even Vice President  hopeful Elect Palin has 5 children  and her oldest daughter who is 17 is pregnant according to the news reports on 1010 Wins and AOL NEWS MEDIA,  she fully supports them in all that they do. She supports her 17 year old daughter in her goals for herself and soon to be new family.

 

 The most important thing is keeping an OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN.  NO MATTER WHAT! 

That will mean your children should come to you with whatever the  condition is.

  It is not easy to do that.  I know.  I am a single parent. 

 I want the best for my son…but I also know that no one’s kid is an angel.  So pray with your kids, and love them…just as the Lord above loves you and forgives you of all your mistakes daily….correct?

Remember no one is perfect,  and  everyone makes mistakes. 

Love your kids….love yourself and don’t be too hard on your kids or yourself. 

 You and your family will live happier,  and longer lives.  TOGETHER!!!

till next blog….

RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY!~

THE FORCE AND WILL OF CREATION!

  

 

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

Who am I you ask?

What are my abilities you wonder.

 

 

I have not come this far  by your

direction,  or by your power.

The higher authority that breathed

life into my frame,  who

very much ordained my name

decided…and so it was!

Perception is sometimes powered by

STEROTYPE!

Misconception is sometimes powered

by dislike!

Who am I you ask….

I am the force and the will of creation…

I am the power of the volcano’s eruption

molten lava rolling and burning a path through

everything!

A tornado in all of its thoughtless,  callous chaos….twirling

in beauty and destruction without apparent destination, or goals…

intent on devastation…yet in simplistic natural beauty powered by an unseen

machine and engine.

A hurricane large and moving in speeds of one hundred mile an hour winds, ripping trees from their root beds and tossing homes and cars like children’s toys…yet again powered by an unseen mechanical engine of such power as to draw all living and dead into its path.

So who am I you ask?

Incased in this flesh I am mortal,  a woman,  an individual with thoughts,  feelings and ideas.

Yet you perceive me weak,  you know….first impressions and all….

But oh,  do not be deceived….just as you are ….I see through to your very soul….

we are both

the force and will of creation!

Just as I have and you have the ability to be creative,  so do I ….just as you have the ability to be destructive so do I.

I chose life…

what do you choose?

Within me reigns the absolute power to choose—to be the FORCE AND WILL OF CREATION!

Where Have I been?

Journey Behind the Falls at Niagara ...

 

I have been on a journey…

My friend

I have not been lost

intentionally

but a journey of length

and depth  has

challenged my

very heart and soul

I have gathered need

and gathered sorrow

My journey leads me

down dark alleys

bright rooms,

painful thoughts

and haunting fears

Tears are worthless

here on my journey

But the tears still come

and roll down my cheeks

like snowballs gathering

size and speed

My nose and face feel clogged

from the emotions spent

on this journey

Come free me my friend

from this torment

But I do not cry for myself

I cry for another

My son, my dear son

What will be?

Sickness again claimed

him on June 24 after

his American History

Regents exam…of which he

did receive an 88!

The victory of his passing

is overshadowed by the

illness that gripped him in

its stealy hands

I wish for him joy,

health, and happines…

I pray for him health, health, and more health

So that has been my journey my friend

Seeking health and strength for

the child of my womb

The child I had prayed for 15 years ago

is in a battle for his life….

So my journey is not a lonely one

but a hard. brittle, prickly one

Where have I been?  Right here,

at home, at work, but journey is a battle of

the mind and strength of the

spirit.

JOurney is to walk a walk of faith,

and endurance…

So I have not called you,  written you,

but I know you are still there.

I will not go,

while I continue this journey,  whose

destination I yet do not know.

-fini-

Riveroflifelisajoy

credit of waterfalls image…from aol journey images

Good Food Receipes for our Hearts! Taken from “46 Healthy SOUL FOOD RECIPES” BY The Stroke Association .org

I was at a job related function the other day,  and two very nice ladies came out to give a talk about health  and black Americans.  The asked us all to be ambassadors for health with them and pass out this information about Black American’s and their heart health.  So here goes……

The Booklet called 46 Healthy SoulFood Recipes was edited by Sandra K. Nissenberg,   the CEO  is Louis Weber,  President of the Magazine Division is Jerry l.Croft,  and the Editor -in – Chief is James M. O’Connor.  

ACCORDING TO AMERICAN HEART/AMERICAN STROKE ASSOCIATION —LEARN AND FACTS AND LIVE!

STROKE TARGETS BY COLOR!!!!

ACCORDING TO AMERICAN HEART ASSOCIATION/AMERICAN STROKE:

KNOW WHERE YOU STAND.  THE ODDS ARE AFRICAN AMERICANS ARE TWICE AS LIKELY TO SUFFER A STROKE AS WHITE AMERICANS.

BEATING THE ODDS ISN’T ABOUT WINNING.  IT’S ABOUT LIVING!!!

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO END STROKE. CALL:  1-888-4-STROKE/

STROKEASSOCIATION.ORG

(((THESE AND MOST OF THE FACTS IN THIS BLOG ARE TAKEN DIRECTLY FROM THE  BOOKLET ON HEALTHY EATING OF SOUL FOOD.  I (RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY) HAD PROMISED TO  GET THIS INFORMATION OUT TO EVERYBODY.  –EVEN AT CHURCH OR MY SON’S TENNIS ACADEMY!  SO I MUST ALSO SHARE WITH YOU MY FELLOW BLOGERS AND READERS OF POSTS.  I HAVE HIGHBLOOD PRESSURE, AND I HAVE TO MONITOR MY BLOOD PRESSURE JUST AS MANY OF US DO.  SO PLEASE TAKE ME SERIOUSLY AND PLEASE ENJOY THE RECEIPES I WILL BE POSTING UNDER THE SAME HEADING THE ONLY DIFFERENCE WILL BE THAT I GIVE A DATE AND STATE THAT IS IS RECEIPE  NUMBER ONE ETC.)))

 The book on healthy soul food has bright happy pictures and color appetizing food.  I will be cooking a meal from this booklet.  “Soul Food”  has everything from  soups, salads,  seafood, meats, poultry, vegetarian entrees, vegetables and sides,  breads, breakfasts, and of course my favorite….desserts!

I will give you a sample of the food after this quick discussion taken from the Soul Food Receipe book:

FOLLOW THE THREE “R”s TO HELP PROTECT YOURSELF AGAINST STROKE.

  • REDUCE your chances of having a stroke by learning the risk factors and working with your doctor.
  • RECOGNIZE THE WARNING SIGNS OF STROKE.  STROKE IS A MEDICAL EMERGENCY—EVERY SECOND COUNTS!
  • RESPOND BY CALLING 911 IMMEDIATELY IF YOU OR SOMEONE NEARBY IS EXPERIENCING THE WARNING SIGNS OF STROKE. THEN CHECK THE TIME THAT THE FIRST SYMPTOMS STARTED.  YOU’LL NEED THIS INFORMATION LATER.

FOLLOW THESE TIPS ACCORDING TO THE SOULFOOD BOOKLET:

“How to use these receipes:

To help you with meal planning, each recipe includes a nutrition analysis.  The following guidelines give some details about how the analyses are claculated.  Use the analyses to help determine how well a certain dish will fit into your overall eating plan.

Eat a variety of nutritious foods from all food groups.

Eat a diet rich in vegetables and fruits.

Choose whole-grain, high-fiber foods.

Eat fish, preferably oily fish, at least twice a week.

Limit foods that are high in calories but low in nutrients,

Limit how much saturated fat, trans fat, and cholestrol you eat.

Cut back on beverages and foods with added sugars.

Choose and prepare foods with little or not salt.

If you drinkalcohol, drink in moderation.

Read nutrition facts labels and ingredients list when you shop.

((According to the booklet on HEALTHY SOULFOOD RECEIPES  —–

FOR more information on the updated American Heart Association Dietary and Lifestyle Recommendations, visit americanheart.org.

oKAY….LETS GET TO ATLEAST one RECEIPE TODAY….SHALL WE?

RECIPE #1~~~BLACK-EYED PEA SOUP

1 14.5-ounce can fat-free, low-sodium chicken broth

2  smoked ham hocks (about 1 pound)

16 ounces frozen black-eyed peas

1 14.5-ounce can no-salt-added diced tomatoes

1/4  teaspoon dried thyme, crumbled

1/8  teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes

1/4  teaspoon salt

In a large sauce pan, bring the broth to a boil over high heat.  Stir in the remaining ingredients except the salt.  Return to a boil.  Reduce the heat and simmer, covered, for 30 minutes, or until the peas are very tender. Remove from the heat.

Stir in the salt.  Let stand for 10 minutes so the flavors blend; the standing time is very important in this receipe. Discard the ham hocks before lading the soup into soup bowls.

Per serving:  calories 183, Total Fat 1.0 g. Saturated Fat0.0 g. Polyunsaturated Fat 0.5 g. Monounsaturated Fat 0.0g g. Cholesterol 0 mg. Sodium 218 mg. Cabohydrates 34 g. Dietary Fiber 7 g. Sugars 3 g. Protein 12 g.

Dietary Exchanges:  2 starch, 1 vegetable, 1 very lean meat

This is one of many installments of receipes from the “46 Healthy Soul Food Receipes”  Booklet from the American Heart Association /American Stroke Association.

Try this receipe and let me know how you liked it!  Or better yet, if you have ideas of your own for healthy SOULFOOD cooking…blog it and share it so we can all live heart healthy!

Till next blog,

riveoflifelisajoy!

 

 

Pat Buchanan–“Did he state that Black Americans should be Thankful for Slavery?—What Year is this Again? 2008?!!”

 

 QUOTED FROM E.POLITICS.COM… REGARDING REMARKS OF PAT BUCHANAN

“America has been the best country on earth for black folks. It was here that 600,000 black people, brought from Africa in slave ships, grew into a community of 40 million, were introduced to Christian salvation, and reached the greatest levels of freedom and prosperity blacks have ever known. “

I DO NOT GENERALLY TAKE OTHER WRITS ON THE INTERNET—BUT THIS STRUCK ME SO HARD THAT I HAD TO GIVE MR.  COLIN DELANY ANOTHER  AREA IN WHICH TO VENT.  IT WOULD APPEAR THAT MR. PAT BUCHANAN SEEMS TO FEEL THAT PEOPLE OF THE AFRICAN AMERICAN HERITAGE ARE TO BE THANKFUL FOR THE “BENEFITS” OF SLAVERY IN AMERICA.  

I RECENTLY VIEWED THE MOVIE  “AMAZING GRACE”, AN HISTORIC MOVIE ABOUT THE BATTLE HELD IN ENGLAND BY WILLIAM WILLBERFORCE,  A MERCHANT WHO BEING IN POLITICS AT THE TIME FOUGHT AGAINST SLAVERY, HAVING BEEN INFLUENCED BY HIS PASTOR, JOHN NEWTON, ( A REFORMED  SLAVE TRADER WHO WROTE THE FAMED “AMAZING GRACE” HYM THAT EVERYONE TAKES FOR GRANTED). 

 THE EVENT TOOK PLACE, ACCORDING TO THE MOVIE REVIEW WRITTEN BY REV. BRYAN GRIEM “OVER TWO CENTURIES” AGO–DURING THE TIME BETWEEN THE AMERICAN REVOLUTION AT THE END  OF THE THE FRENCH REVOLUTION.” (1 MOVIE REVIEW- CHRISTIAN SPOLIGHT.COM)

THIS MOVIE WAS TOUCHING,  AND MADE ME REALIZE THAT NOT ALL EUROPEANS WERE FOR THE SLAVE TRADE.  YES, THERE WERE THE REFORMED SLAVE TRADERS….BUT THAT ENGLAND HAD RENOUNCED THE SLAVE TRADE BEFORE AMERICA …IS THOUGHT PROVOKING TO SAY THE LEAST.  I HAD NEVER THOUGHT OF ENGLAND HAS HAVING ANY COMPASSION, OR HUMAN  AWARENESS THAT THE SLAVE TRADE WAS WRONG…ON SO MANY LEVELS.  ——-BUT YET,  HERE TWO CENTURIES FROM THAT DATE…..HERE IS PAT BUCHANAN TELLING BARAK OBAMA AND HIS ***NEGATIVE ****BASED ALLEGED MINISTER MR.  WRIGHT,  THAT (ALTHOUGHT HIS STATEMENTS WERE INAPROPRIATE)  THAT MR. WRIGHT SHOULD BE THANKING G-D FOR SLAVERY?  

I WONDER IF WILLIAM WILBERFORCE HAD READ OR HEARD PAT BUCHANAN’S RATHER SHALLOW,  LIMITED VIEWS ON HUMAN ENSLAVEMENT—WOULD HE HAVE AGREED?  I THINK NOT!!!! 

IN THE MOVIE, AMAZING GRACE,  JOHN NEWTON,  STATED THAT THE SLAVES WERE NOT THE ANIMALS,  THE SLAVE TRADERS WERE THE BARBARIANS.  THEY ABUSED, MISUSED,  MURDERED,  RAPED, ETC., ETC., ETC., THE CAPTIVE AFRICANS  DURING THE “MIDDLE PASSAGE FROM AFRICA  TO ENGLAND, AMERICA AND OTHER PORTS OF CALL. 

HOW COULD PAT BUCHANAN MAKE SUCH A COLD, SICK STATEMENT THAT SLAVERY WAS GOOD?   IF IT WAS SO GOOD….WHY DID THE  X-SLAVE TRADER JOHN NEWTON WRITE THAT HYM “AMAZING GRACE”  EXPLAINING HOW HE HAD BEEN WRONG FOR HIS ACTIONS AND REALIZING THE LOVE OF GOD INSPITE OF HIS OWN EVIL ACTIONS TOWARD OTHER HUMANBEINGS.  EVEN IF SOMEONE LOOKS, SMELLS, LIVES, ACTS DIFFERENT THAN YOU AS A HUMANBEING

….DOES THAT GIVE YOU THE SUPREME RIGHT TO DEMORALIZE THAT HUMAN BEING?   I THINK NOT…..THUS THAT BEAUTIFUL HYMN “AMAZING GRACE”  AND THE MAN WILLIAM WILBURFORCE WAS BORN TO FIGHT THE INJUSTICE OF SLAVERY AND THEN  WIN  IN ENGLAND…SETTING THE STAGE FOR THE  CHANGE TO TAKE PLACE IN AMERICA.

IS PAT BUCHANAN STATING BASICALLY THAT BLACKS OR ANY OTHER PEOPLE OF BROWN, OR YELLOW SKIN WOULD NOT,  COULD NOT HAVE BEEN A PART OF TODAYS SOCIETY WERE IT NOT FOR THE SO CALLED BENEFITS OF SLAVERY?

   IS HE SO LIMITED ON WORLD HISTORY AND ANTHROPOLOGY AND THE STUDY OF HUMAN PSYCHO BEHAVIOR THAT HE WOULD DECIDE THAT TO HARM AN ENTIRE RACE OF PEOPLE BY ABUSE, AND ENSLAVEMENT IS BETTER SO THAT THEY COULD BE TRAINED,  EDUCATED, AND CIVILIZED?

MY  COLLEGE COURSES CONTAINED SOME AFRICAN AMERICAN HISTORY AND THE SLAVE TRADE.  THERE WERE NO BENEFITS TO SLAVE TRADE.  I AM THE FIRST GENERATION WITHIN MY MOTHER’S FAMILY TO ATTEND COLLEGE,  AND MY MOTHER ATTEMPTED TO FINISH COLLEGE, BUT FAMILY CONCERNS TOOK THE CENTER STAGE IN HER LIFE. 

 WHY DIDN’T MY MOTHER GO TO COLLEGE BACK IN THE THIRTIES?  MY MOTHER”S FATHER WAS UNEDUCATED, AND SO WAS HER MOTHER.  THEY COULD READ ENOUGH TO CLEAN, OR DO BASIC WORK IN DOMESTIC LOCALS.  SO WHERE IS MR. BUCHANAN GETTING HIS BASIS TO JUSTIFY HIS THOUGHTS ON THE BENEFITS OF SLAVERY?

   WHY ARE SO MANY BLACK AND LATINO PEOPLE NOT HAS SUCCESSFUL AS THEIR COUNTERPART AMERICAN’S?  THIS TOPIC WOULD TAKE ME SEVERAL IF NOT HUNDREDS OF BLOG SPACE TO ADDRESS.

ANY HOW,  PLEASE TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOVIE CALLED, AMAZING GRACE , FEATURING:

  • IOAN GRUFFUDD
  • ALBERT FINNY
  • BENEDICT GUMBERBATCH
  • MICHAEL GAMBON
  • RAMOLA GARAI

DIRECTED BY MICHAEL APTED

DISTRUBED BY SAMUEL GOLDWYN

PLEASE READ THE FOLLOWING OPEN LETTER TO PAT BUCHANAN FROM

A WHITE MALE NAMED  “COLIN DELANY” AT e.politics.com

AND THEN CONSIDER “THE BENEFITS OF SLAVERY” ACCORDING TO MR. BUCHANAN—THANK YOU…riveroflifelisajoY

COTTON MOUTH

Jay Jewels Cry FOR HUMANITYDry like the parchment of the

scroll of a writ

of so long ago

Thousands of years

hid away

Moments in the hands of

an anthropologist

crackling under his

sweaty palms

grasp

the dry old parchment

will melt away

if not put in sealed

archival containers

dry like the old linen dress

of yesteryear

like a ball of cottom in my mouth

the medical diagnosis

has come and gone

and now my sensations are

minimized

except for the diagnosis

pain that is ripping its’

way deep into my heart.

Trying to explain to my

child that he has to

take medication to save his

life.

Cotton mouth,

loss of taste for the

things you love.

Loss of sensation in my

feet and hands

Sitting I type not

feeling, not

wanting to feel the pain

deep searing a tunnel through

my stomach

I feel full,

gas overcomes my belly

cotton mouth

prevents me from

eating

like the fullness of

emptiness I hold

deep in my belly to

unfold until I scream from

pain and agony

Take the truth,

dealt the truth

no compassion

was the final blow

given

lost in a new

hell

fear of the unknown and

the diagonosis compells

the rickety fence of hell to

open and reveal the ominous

cavern that threatens to swallow

us whole

We must proceed my child

we must go in

Cotton mouth,

sweaty palms,

sweaty feet,

sudden compulsion to

release bodily fluids,

fight or flight sydrome

in full affect

compel me oh Lord

toward the light

Let taste return

Cotton Mouth–

I cannot swallow

for the diagnosis

itself is not paletable

The diagnosis was

given with such cold

precision like the blade

of the surgeons knife

Hold my hand my child

walk together we will

toward the tower of hell

but together we will

climb to heaven

despite the steely grasp of the  Cotton mouth!

Cross Over

Old Fabric by RiveroflifelisajoyCross Over and move out the way

Sometimes the river does not

sway,  the tide is high  and

my spirit is low

I do not want to look back

or let go

What do I say  to my child

to day

His love of life has

been challenged,

like a dry twig broken

and chips of it splinter

and fall away

His health is  limited

yet a picture of health

is he

So why this sad problem

that plagues me today

The doctor looks cool, and

medical team too serene

Your child has to take

xxxmiligrams and

that is all…

Have a nice day

Go forth, leave the

hospital and jump back

into the stream. river of life

and move on

after this limited 5 day

hospital stay

But wait,  I have more questions,

What about the side affects….

“OH, he just might be a bit sleepy…that is all

any way…have a good day!

No, NO!  I need to say this,  I have to ask

that….do not dismiss me so easily

For I must fight for my child

I must question, and stay longer if

I must

For though you are the doctor…I cannot

entirely trust

for each patient has

different needs, and questions…so let us reason,

let us rationalize before we say our goodbyes!

So again I say dear Doctor

today—crossover from your generalized sermon, and

medical doctrine

Crossover to a parent who is human, and alive..

Because the condition of which you speak

is not simple to me

not simple to my child

just simple medical diagnosis to you

So please….cross over from the cold

cruel world  of illness

disease

and  speak

Woman to Woman,  possibly Mother to Mother

please.

Fini

Riveroflifelisajoy