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Guess What? Weight is a Direct connection to Illness….Heard that on 1010 Wins Health minute! So where’s the Comedy in that?


There are those heavy, full figured comedians which shall remain namelss, (Monique) who state that BIG IS BEAUTIFUL!   Well I think that is the problem.

  Making one’s soda extra large at the fast food place,  or having BIGGIE FRIES or double, double whopper is not HEALTHY!

  So why are the comedians who can afford a : weight trainer,  lap ban surgery,  and live in doctor telling us big gals and big men that it is alright to STAY BIG?

  That is not a good road to lead people down.  No,  no one is leading me into Biggie fries…I chose those on my own…(if and when I make a choice in that direction!) 

 But still, self-esteem is a big issue in today.  I had a friend who is a rather small man in height and weight….OH,  there are men who love women your size.  Wait,  I will get the name of the “CLUB”  that you can go to inorder to meet men who LOVE BIG WOMEN!!!! UGHHHHHH!!!

 If there was a moment in my life when I knew that I could see the end of a friendship in big clear letters it was then!  I was not into any kind of weird fetish club!  Some people like to look at women’s hands etc…..I do not want to be put in that category. 

 Yes I am big….but no I do not want someone who is looking for a WOMAN MY SIZE!  How dare  you!  I am not a car,   mini van,  coup deville,  or corvet that you pick out at the showroom. 

 Picture this, “Oh, yes we have the model you are looking for,  Large Brown Woman,  Gap in front of teeth, teeth more yellow than white,  This is our used model category of woman though,  but very, very, very reliable! 

 Great mileage….hardly used at all,  only bore one child.  But alas,  this is a late model you know….a baby boomer.  But she does put in a hard days work, despite the now recent weigh in of 269.1pounds! 

 Her legs are strong.  She has actual ankles,  not cankles, you know the calve, and ankles combo….she has distinct ankles for her age and weight. 


 See how degrading that all seems?  It is silly, but that is how annoyed my small framed, low weight male friend felt when he made that comment to me.

  And I told him about it….that is right!  If I was a beautiful woman with long flowing black curly hair, I would not want anyone to tell me to go to a club where woman that look like me would find a match of a man who likes woman with black curly hair! 

 Everyone wants to be loved for the unique qualities that are within their spirit and their heart.  No one wants to be picked out for their strange shaped forehead or something. 

 I am not a cow,  a cat or a car.  Treat me special please!   ooooh,  I digress!  I am sorry,  I kind of went off on a tangent didn’t I?  Okay, where were we,  Oh,  yes. 

Being overweight might appeal to some,  but where are it’s health benefits if any?  I heard it today, on  2/15/08….on my favorite radio news station 1010 wins—that there is a direct correlation to health and cancer based on weight according to a study done. 

 (The WHO that did the study has slipped my mind at this time—but it does not matter,  I have heard that statement from my doctor many, many, many times!) 

My problem today,  to correlate to that “new so-called statistical data finding…my back has been aching for the past month now.  It hurts just above the kidney aread…or at it directly. 

 One morning on a Monday to be exact,  I woke up and was too dizzy and weak to make it to work.  I called out sick and made my doctor appointment which I had been putting off. 

 When I told the doctor about this constant pain after I eat meals, drink, or have to move around too much, she took blood.  Since I have highblood pressure and my child Daniel has been getting sick lately I chalked it up to stress. 

But to be on the safe side…lets not ignore ole’ Betsy the Sedan Large and Lovely Body Beautiful….shall we?  So  blood tests all done,  and now MamoGrahm, and GYN up next too. 

 We must check out the facts about weight and health correlation!  I do not want to be the guinea Hippo here…but this is really for myself, and my family.

  I am merely sharing this oh, so very private health condition, and issues with you to help you women who are in my mid-forties, and 269.1 category….not to direct to you a CLUB for large babes….but to direct you to a better state of mind in regards to your daily health! 

 Remember…..our families need us to live long enough to see them grow, and mature,  and be there for babies and all like that.

  So,  do me and you a favor,….no I do not know where the club for Big Gals and the men who love them are….I would not allow my male friend tell me where to go….because I am mentally a Big Gal with a Medium,  healthy weight woman rising!

   (could not resist the horoscope correlation…ladies!)  So  seriously,  take the time to check out your aches and pains.  I personally believe in natural weight loss.  I am afraid of that lap band surgery. 

There  are two women that are on my job right now that have lost tremendous weight, from the surgery.  But see,  I cannot be happy not eating!  I am a foodie! 

 No,  I do not binge,  I just like a good cooked meal.  I have bad habits for eating dinner late into the night and then going immediately to bed.  I have to get up early,  around 5 am.  I always feel sick. 

 Sometimes I will throw up while brushing my teeth, because  the food from the late night dinner after I worked overtime at my job,  did not digest properly.  You know that when you lay down to sleep your digestive track has the nerve to stop working right? 

 So production stops and all that food becomes are hard nasty lump in the pit of your stomach and when you awake you feel nauseaous!  Ugh!

So  getting back to our, yours and my health.

  Check out those aches and pains and call Jenny Craig,  WeightWatchers and First CALL YOUR DOCTOR AND MAKE AN APPOINTMENT…..TAKE A FRIEND WITH YOU IF YOU ARE SCARED…..BUT GO,  BIG GALS GO!  —All joking aside….look in the mirror,  you are beautiful,  but your heart will love you more if you take good care of it! 

And one more thing Ladies….In honor of Women’s heart month…..and Valentines Day—Take care of your heart and it will take care of you!   Happy Valentines Day!

Take care,  until next weight and health blog—


My Valentines Day Gift….My Son’s LIfe! Reflections on Illness—Illness does not take a Holiday.–by riveroflifelisajoy

duckies at playIt all started on Sunday night.  My son, 14 year old Daniel told me that he had a sore throat. He wanted to play tennis although,  he said that the sore throat was there….looming in our midst.

  I said,  “I’ll take you to the HIP urgent care instead”…he said , “NO”!!!!  I want to go to play tennis!!!  Please MOMMY!!!! 

So I took him.  He played.  He played… and he played.   I left him for a little while and  went to my house to check on my mother and start dinner. 

 I came back and Daniel was still playing.  I went to the Cunningham Park Tennis Bubble. 

He plays tennis 3 times a week now.  When  I attempted to go into the bubble a strange thing had happened.  I had to go through the revolving doors that keep the Bubbles in order.  It has two Bubbles at Cunningham. 

 But they are connected by “buildings.”  The buildings are pressurized to keep the bubbles “up”  I guess. 

 Well, in one bubble this night was a soccer group —and in the other bubble was  the Youth and Tennis Academy Group of Southeast Queens—Daniel’s group.

  Anyway,  as I entered the area that separates the two bubbles I felt a strong gust of wind.  I looked in the direction that the wind was coming from and I saw about 6 or 7 kids playing around with the exit door inside the soccer bubble! 

 I could not believe what I was looking at.  The Bubble was being compromised by these kids…the air was pushing into the area where I was standing. 

I was in shock at first,  so I just stood looking ….then I heard banging!  I turned to my right and saw that the door that leads to the tennis bubble had closed.  

I saw a middle aged woman banging on the door.  She was looking nervous and told me to open the door.  I would not touch that door. 

 It had been shut by an automatic system to prevent the bubble from being compromised by the decrease in pressure from the soccer bubble where the kids were playing around with the outside door. 

 Suddenly the care taker, a young college student, came running from the revolving doors of the main building in the bubble complex. 

 I had hoped that he was responding to some type of alarm from that exit door that the kids were playing with.  I told him what was happening and told him that this big door to the tennis bubble had shut.  He looked at the door and explained what happened. 

 I looked back at the soccer bubble and saw that the door had finally been shut by the kids that had tampered with it.  I saw a young lady at a concession stand and said, “What is going on?  Those kids should be supervised! 

 Why are they playing with that door anyway?”  The young lady stated that those kids belong to the adults who were playing soccer…”  I turned back to the caretaker and told him what had happened. 

 He finally opened the tennis bubble heavy gauge stainless steel door.  When he opened that door is when I realized the power of a pressurized area!!!  Oh, my!!!!  Standing between the two bubbles was a powerful experience. 

 It was like a WIND TUNNEL!!  Then I really got angry…realizing the danger that unsupervised children could cause for themselves and others!  What a mess! 

 I went inside the tennis bubble and Daniel was happy and playing…not aware of the danger,  or the situation.  The heavy gauge stainless steel had done its’ job. 

 When we finally arrived home,  I asked Daniel how is your throat?  He said  “Still sore.”  He went to bed.  He woke up the next morning weezing. 

I had looked at him and did not like the look of his skin.  He looked greyish.  I took him to LongIsland Jewish Hospital.  They just observed him and said that he could just drink alot of fluids and stay home.

  He went home.  That night I took him back to the hospital with a low grade fever.  He stated that he was so very hot.  The emergency room told me that everybody was coming down with the flu.  —-But Daniel had had a flu shot. 

 Daniel had a flu shot back in October.  Then they said it was viral.  These terms can be so confusing! The next day Daniel did not feel any better. 

 He was weezing still.  I made an appointment with his doctor.  His doctor thought that it was a basic cold. 

 Nothing to really concern yourself….You know kids of his size and age…it’s like an adult….they get over it.  He can go to school.  He went to school on Wednesday.  In the evening after school Daniel’s condition had changed. 

I had brought him some special food from my job.  I called him to come and take some.  He only looked at it and then retreated back upstairs to his room. 

He stayed upstairs and did not come down.  I was cleaning and heating up the food in the oven.  I was having small talk with my mother. 

Suddenly,  I called Daniel to come get his food and he said, “No, I’m on the toilet.”  I said are you alright?  He said, “NO, I think I ‘m going to throw up!”  I went upstairs and stood outside the bathroom door. 

“What is the matter?” I said.  He stated that he just felt nauseous.   He stayed like that for about a half hour.  I told him to lay down and I would bring a bucket for him to his bedside. 

I thought it strange that it would take so long for that sensation to go away.  I didn’t know what to do.  Daniel has that Seizure problem too.  I thought maybe something was coming on.

  I was not sure what it would turn out to be at this point.  He laid down.  I made some camomile tea with a little milk.  I thought that might start the process to relief. 

He took a sip.  He did not throw up at all…not ever….not that night!  Strange,  very  strange.  He laid very still and did not move.  He told me not to talk.  Finally,  he went to sleep.

  When I woke him the next day, he was having shortness of breath, and dizzy/lightheadedness.  He took his nebulizer and I told him to get dressed.  This would be our third visit to the emergency room at Longlsland Jewish Hospital this week. 

 This week…..Valentines Day….and my birthday on the 15 of this week too!!!!  Ugh!  I never get a gift for my birthday, or a Valentines card. 

 I do not really care at this point.  All that mattered,  and mattERS…is Daniel.  Daniel’s health and well being. 

 So yesterday Valentines day my son Daniel and I spent Valentines day in the emergency room of LongIsland Jewish Hospital!!!  From about  8:00 am until 4:00 pm.

  My child Daniel had heavy congestion,  and light headedness.  The doctors acted quickly to decrease the congestion and shortness of breath. Daniel was given I.V.  solution intervenously, and nebulizer treatments and some other medications to help his lungs to decrease the reactions to the flym.

 My child had been to all the doctors during the week,  but some how situations still took a negative turn.  Thank G-d for the emergency room doctors at LongIsland Jewish Hospital. 

 They would not allow him to go home until his heart rate was correct, and the breathing was correct.  His nausea went away, and he could eat again.

  Although I do not receive romantic gifts for my birthday on February 15,  or Valentines day….I RECEIVED MY SON’S HEALTH AND WELL BEING FROM LONGISLAND JEWISH SYNDER CHILDREN’S EMERGENCY ROOM DOCTORS!  —for which I am truly thankful for. 

 G-d bless those doctors who really took the time to look at my Daniel and evaluated him.  Holidays, and birthdays  mean nothing to illness.  As always,  I must remain ever mindful that the story is not about me! 

  Life is about living and giving to others….and I learned that yesterday.  If you ask me my choice of gift I would prefer for Valentines Day—-I will always chose to save the life of another humanbeing, or a family member. 

 My dear Daniel has suffered so much in the past few years….no sane mother wants her child to experience pain and sickness. 

 I am truly, thankful for my birthday gift!!!! 

 Thank you doctors at L.I.J.  Synders Children Hospital!!!