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HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS!

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

I may not be able to afford certain things like cable tv, or direct tv…but I take my son to the park and help him to train toward tennis scholarships! Also he wants to work on competitive tennis. 
 So I go with him and toss the ball at him fast, slow,  low to the grow and high in the air.  So what am I telling you?  I just try to help as much as I can. 

 

 

Some people like to tell me to stop focusing on my kid so much.  But you know what?   If I do not help him now…he may not be able to support himself or his future wife and kids.  So what is wrong with being there now? 

Oh,  some people have told me…you need to keep yourself happy.  Look,  when I am past the age of 48 that I am now….I would hate to have to look back and see that I did not do all I could to help my child acheive. 

 Hey,  everybody has a diferent reason for what they do in life. 

 I am sitting here blogging….so am I totally consumed with my  son 24 hours a day?????  OF COURSE NOT!  My son plays tennis with other people.  I do not actually play the game. 

I am there to help him to stay focused on the actual training. 

 How do you think Tiger Woods and Venus and Serena made it to the top of their sports and careers?

The parents helped those kids stay focused and  become the men and women that they are today. 

Last week ( at the Kids Day in Queens of the USOPEN)   Serena won $15,000.00 for  a charity that she began her own name…to give back to the community. 

 So all of the effort that  the father of Venus and Serena Williams (Tennis Champions)  placed and focused on helping the two young ladies paid off and it now helps others!

—–  So when my son  gets up to play…I am about 200 to 300 feet away from him.  I also am either shopping, or checking in on my mother…reading a newspaper,  or talking to other parents. 

 My son has to come to his own conclusions about his goals and dreams.

  I AM ONLY A FACILITATOR!!!!!

I drive my son to the golf course in Dyker Brooklyn to the children’s golf course.  I take him to the SPORTS AUTHORITY  look at tennis rackets,  tennis clothing,  golf clubs,  etc.  I take him to Barns and Nobles for books for school,  and reading material.  I drive him to competitions,  and to coaching lessons.  But  the rest is up to him.

So is that wrong?   Hey,  look,  my child did not ask to be born.  My child was a WANTED CHILD!~  I was legally married to my husband for 5 years before I finally got pregnant. 

I have not had any other pregnancies,  or any other husbands.  Soooo for me to sacrifice….is absolutely nothing.  My child  could not raise himself. 

 When you have a child you have to consider atleast….20 years or so to help him or her get educated,  have food,  shelter,  training how to live in this life,  and be able to get a job or career. 

 So for me it will not be the EMPTY NEST SYNDROME….it will be happiness that I gave as much as I could to help someone to accomplish his goals. 

 If he turns around and changes his mind about his goals,  and throws it all away…he cannot blame me.—for I have given all of myself to him to become a man… of stature and respect. 

 If he turns his back on whatever ideals and concepts that have been carefully taught   to  him….I will bare no shame in this….it will be his  choice as a man. 

But if I turn away now…as he just enters  his 10th grade in highschool and is finishing his 15th year of life…then I will be to blame.

My selfishness will begin later.  So right now…I enjoy blogging!  Is there anything wrong with that?  I am on vacation…when I express my views here with you.

So that is why I challenge all of us parents…focus on HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS…YOU WILL NOT REGRET HONEST HARD WORK….AND PURE LOVE GIVEN TO YOUR CHILDREN.

Remember..even Vice President  hopeful Elect Palin has 5 children  and her oldest daughter who is 17 is pregnant according to the news reports on 1010 Wins and AOL NEWS MEDIA,  she fully supports them in all that they do. She supports her 17 year old daughter in her goals for herself and soon to be new family.

 

 The most important thing is keeping an OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN.  NO MATTER WHAT! 

That will mean your children should come to you with whatever the  condition is.

  It is not easy to do that.  I know.  I am a single parent. 

 I want the best for my son…but I also know that no one’s kid is an angel.  So pray with your kids, and love them…just as the Lord above loves you and forgives you of all your mistakes daily….correct?

Remember no one is perfect,  and  everyone makes mistakes. 

Love your kids….love yourself and don’t be too hard on your kids or yourself. 

 You and your family will live happier,  and longer lives.  TOGETHER!!!

till next blog….

RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY!~

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A LITTLE BIT OF EVERYTHING….7TH INSTALLMENT….CONCERN ABOUT THE FUTURE OF EVERYTHING…

 

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

Well,  where do I start today.
 
 

 

 

 

At this time…it is about 4am,  or 5 am.  I was awakened by this stabbing pain in my back.  As usual I am blog stat obsessed.  So I came down stairs to take my meds..for this “shingles” and I came to the computer to start checking my blog stats.

  Low, for the entire summer,  except when I wrote about Bernie Mack passing away.  I got 519 that day.  I would have perferred a different number.  But I did love Bernie Mack a lot. 

 However, I do not believe that I paid the homage to him that he deserved.  Anyway,  I digress. 

 I have this stabbing pain from shingles… It feels as sharp as it did 5 days ago…before I knew it was shingles…Ugh…Oh, Lord…what do I do?

  I have this ridiculous rash on my stomach and pain.  It comes and goes.  I do not take pain killers. 

 I am not one for pain killers.  Pain killers can destroy the stomach lining,  or cause high blood pressure or worse. 

 So I avoid pain killers at this time.  I am willing to cope …so I just blog…until I get too pain ridden,  or tired or both.

I will stop by the emergency room, or go back to the doctor….before Tuesday…(back to work day) to decide what is the next step with this annoying back pain…from shingles.  UGH….Lord have Mercy!

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Alaska has more to offer than just  “Northern lights”,  polar bears,  ice,  and wild life….According to John McCain…there is a Vice President up there. 

  I do not know what to think of this.  It is quite smart…but long term committment….long term  history or knowlege of government on the part of  the recent governor of  a  “Bible Belt” gun toting  state….hard to figure…”just fasten your seat belts…it’s gonna be a bumpy ride!!!”

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REVISITING HURRICANE KATRINA….

I do not understand the so called NO PLAN OF ACTION PLAN…EXCEPT TO EVACUATE EVERYBODY….NO PLAN OF ACTION PLAN OF NOT TO PREPARE A HOLD OVER SITE INCASE THEY CANNOT GET EVERYBODY OUT PLAN????

  Do they always get it wrong I wonder?  I hope this is not playing out like some kind of C-list movie…where the main characters…the victims suffer again…like last time. 

 I remember watching the news on my friends cable TV Weather Channel,  and CNN and how those people were stranded on the roofs of buildings and screaming for just some water! 

  Lord…I hope these elected and state officials,, and city officials have their finger on  the pulse of  this new hurricane Gustav!

NEW TOPIC:

SCHOOL SUPPLIES…..WHO PAYS FOR SCHOOL SUPPLIES FOR MY KID?

Yesterday I was sitting in the park…watching my son play tennis.  I was relating my son’s lovely tennis camp experience…and golf experience of the summer to another mother. 

 She changed the subject to school supplies.  She is NOT a single parent like me.   So she does not get the point of how hard it is to buy anything after the rent is paid. 

 She started telling me to go to Jamaica  Avenue,  Staples,  and Office Max to buy school supplies.  I told her that I have no money at all. 

 She started telling me that  pencils and things were 20 cents etc.  I explained that I was literally sitting there with$5.00 (five dollars in my pocket). 

 I explained that I pay $1600.00 per month for rent….I am a single parent…(which she knows)

 She is not.  She and her husband are home owners and have two kids.

  I have one child…but I care for my mother and son.  I do not receive child support.  So you know what happens to me? 

I feel like back to school is just like CHRISTMAS TIME IN AUGUST AND SEPTEMBER!  Whether a box of crayons or pencils or pens is cheap means nothing.

  I am on a limited income…so it is not PART OF MY BUDGET….I do not have a budget….My income is shot! 

 Once I pay the rent….I have barely enough money to buy food.  I have a nearly 6 foot tall size twelve foot….15 yearold  eating maching in the house. 

My loving oversize  child…needs to eat alot of carbs…or he  can get literally SICK….(READ MY OTHER BLOGS…) 

 So….basically  We  as a family of three…. live  PAY CHECK TO PAY CHECK. 

 (READ MY OTHER BLOGS ON INCOME DISPARITY….THEN YOU WILL UNDERSTAND MY POINT HERE.—ALSO PROBABLY THE REASON FOR THIS STUPID SHINGLES PROBLEM (STRESS RELATED ILLNESS).

—Thus,  my annoyance…when this “woman” who is not struggeling on her own like I am…started pressuring me to get up out of the park and run down to Jamacia Avenue….and get these great sales..

I just started spewing my SAD STORY ABOUT MY LACK OF MONEY….but I did inform her that I would go get my son’s school supplies when I get paid this week. 

 How could she be so unaware that other people do not have the same set of financial circumstances that she has? 

 My family tree does not have any uncles, aunts, cousins,  husband (due to catastrophic disease ),  inlaws( due to total disfunction of my estranged husband’s family)—-Myself, my mother and my son do not possess any family that step in and give any financial assistance what so ever!

  When my son graduated eigth grade going into highschool  …I was the only person   from our family at his graduation!  My mother could not attend because the church building has not been made wheel chair friendly.

  So…if I do not have the cash on hand…or even a credit card(due to financial ruin from my banckruptcy  from my estranged husband)—–WHO PAYS FOR SCHOOL SUPPLIES FOR MY SON??????????????????

——-NOT THE PRESIDENT,  NOT THE GOVERNOR,  NOT THE MAYOR,  –=—ONLY MY PAYCHECK…THAT COMES NEXT WEEK. 

 MY RENT IS PAID ON THE 16TH OF THE MONTH

…SO do the math….life is hard. 

 Yeah,  I can sit here and blog…but guess what…? 

 I have dial up aol system…$9.00 per month.

  School supplies, new shoes,  and clothes cost a whole lot more than that!

So as always…this woman turns her back,  runs to her family because she owns a home across the street from the tennis courts where her child and my child play tennis,  and she continued on her merry way of getting great bargins for ‘BACK TO SCHOOL’ for her kids. 

GOOD FOR HER!!!  But she needs to mind her business when it comes to me….ya know?

NEXT TOPIC:

UNDERSTANDING LIMITATIONS…..You must wonder what my financial problems do to my son? 

  He is not spoiled…that is for sure!  He is not a couch potatoe either! 

WE DO NOT HAVE CABLE EITHER

….BUT MY SON DOES HAVE A TENNIS RACKET.

  My son is learning that his possible route out of the financial troubles of his mother….may teach him to develop a skill that is both employable…and scholarship worthy!  

 My son is hearing how tennis coaches make money….”sometimes too much money”

====he is learning the game of golf….too!((((NYC HAS A FREE PROGRAM OF GOLF FOR KIDS IN DYKER STREET….EXIT #4 OFF THE BELT PARKWAY))))

  So,  money problems…may teach my kid…how to survive with learned skills,  and a good education. 

So is it all bad? 

 Sometimes the best life lessons are hard lessons.

 I wish it did not have to be the case…for my child.

 But I pray for  his strength…and my strength too.

till next blog…

river!

ps….the shingles pain is less and I think I can go back to bed now.