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HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS!

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

I may not be able to afford certain things like cable tv, or direct tv…but I take my son to the park and help him to train toward tennis scholarships! Also he wants to work on competitive tennis. 
 So I go with him and toss the ball at him fast, slow,  low to the grow and high in the air.  So what am I telling you?  I just try to help as much as I can. 

 

 

Some people like to tell me to stop focusing on my kid so much.  But you know what?   If I do not help him now…he may not be able to support himself or his future wife and kids.  So what is wrong with being there now? 

Oh,  some people have told me…you need to keep yourself happy.  Look,  when I am past the age of 48 that I am now….I would hate to have to look back and see that I did not do all I could to help my child acheive. 

 Hey,  everybody has a diferent reason for what they do in life. 

 I am sitting here blogging….so am I totally consumed with my  son 24 hours a day?????  OF COURSE NOT!  My son plays tennis with other people.  I do not actually play the game. 

I am there to help him to stay focused on the actual training. 

 How do you think Tiger Woods and Venus and Serena made it to the top of their sports and careers?

The parents helped those kids stay focused and  become the men and women that they are today. 

Last week ( at the Kids Day in Queens of the USOPEN)   Serena won $15,000.00 for  a charity that she began her own name…to give back to the community. 

 So all of the effort that  the father of Venus and Serena Williams (Tennis Champions)  placed and focused on helping the two young ladies paid off and it now helps others!

—–  So when my son  gets up to play…I am about 200 to 300 feet away from him.  I also am either shopping, or checking in on my mother…reading a newspaper,  or talking to other parents. 

 My son has to come to his own conclusions about his goals and dreams.

  I AM ONLY A FACILITATOR!!!!!

I drive my son to the golf course in Dyker Brooklyn to the children’s golf course.  I take him to the SPORTS AUTHORITY  look at tennis rackets,  tennis clothing,  golf clubs,  etc.  I take him to Barns and Nobles for books for school,  and reading material.  I drive him to competitions,  and to coaching lessons.  But  the rest is up to him.

So is that wrong?   Hey,  look,  my child did not ask to be born.  My child was a WANTED CHILD!~  I was legally married to my husband for 5 years before I finally got pregnant. 

I have not had any other pregnancies,  or any other husbands.  Soooo for me to sacrifice….is absolutely nothing.  My child  could not raise himself. 

 When you have a child you have to consider atleast….20 years or so to help him or her get educated,  have food,  shelter,  training how to live in this life,  and be able to get a job or career. 

 So for me it will not be the EMPTY NEST SYNDROME….it will be happiness that I gave as much as I could to help someone to accomplish his goals. 

 If he turns around and changes his mind about his goals,  and throws it all away…he cannot blame me.—for I have given all of myself to him to become a man… of stature and respect. 

 If he turns his back on whatever ideals and concepts that have been carefully taught   to  him….I will bare no shame in this….it will be his  choice as a man. 

But if I turn away now…as he just enters  his 10th grade in highschool and is finishing his 15th year of life…then I will be to blame.

My selfishness will begin later.  So right now…I enjoy blogging!  Is there anything wrong with that?  I am on vacation…when I express my views here with you.

So that is why I challenge all of us parents…focus on HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD BECOME A SUCCESS…YOU WILL NOT REGRET HONEST HARD WORK….AND PURE LOVE GIVEN TO YOUR CHILDREN.

Remember..even Vice President  hopeful Elect Palin has 5 children  and her oldest daughter who is 17 is pregnant according to the news reports on 1010 Wins and AOL NEWS MEDIA,  she fully supports them in all that they do. She supports her 17 year old daughter in her goals for herself and soon to be new family.

 

 The most important thing is keeping an OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN.  NO MATTER WHAT! 

That will mean your children should come to you with whatever the  condition is.

  It is not easy to do that.  I know.  I am a single parent. 

 I want the best for my son…but I also know that no one’s kid is an angel.  So pray with your kids, and love them…just as the Lord above loves you and forgives you of all your mistakes daily….correct?

Remember no one is perfect,  and  everyone makes mistakes. 

Love your kids….love yourself and don’t be too hard on your kids or yourself. 

 You and your family will live happier,  and longer lives.  TOGETHER!!!

till next blog….

RIVEROFLIFELISAJOY!~

THE FORCE AND WILL OF CREATION!

  

 

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

UNIVERSE AND WEAVE IN HARMONY

Who am I you ask?

What are my abilities you wonder.

 

 

I have not come this far  by your

direction,  or by your power.

The higher authority that breathed

life into my frame,  who

very much ordained my name

decided…and so it was!

Perception is sometimes powered by

STEROTYPE!

Misconception is sometimes powered

by dislike!

Who am I you ask….

I am the force and the will of creation…

I am the power of the volcano’s eruption

molten lava rolling and burning a path through

everything!

A tornado in all of its thoughtless,  callous chaos….twirling

in beauty and destruction without apparent destination, or goals…

intent on devastation…yet in simplistic natural beauty powered by an unseen

machine and engine.

A hurricane large and moving in speeds of one hundred mile an hour winds, ripping trees from their root beds and tossing homes and cars like children’s toys…yet again powered by an unseen mechanical engine of such power as to draw all living and dead into its path.

So who am I you ask?

Incased in this flesh I am mortal,  a woman,  an individual with thoughts,  feelings and ideas.

Yet you perceive me weak,  you know….first impressions and all….

But oh,  do not be deceived….just as you are ….I see through to your very soul….

we are both

the force and will of creation!

Just as I have and you have the ability to be creative,  so do I ….just as you have the ability to be destructive so do I.

I chose life…

what do you choose?

Within me reigns the absolute power to choose—to be the FORCE AND WILL OF CREATION!

“IMAGINE ME”

In Luke Chapter 14 verses 7 to14,  Jesus describes how to conduct yourself when you are invited to a wedding.  He explains that you do not sit in the best seat in the house,  (church,  temple etc.) instead sit in the worse seat.  That way if someone of “more importance arrives”  you do not have to change your seat.  Verse 11 states it plainly, “IF YOU PUT YOURSELF ABOVE OTHERS, YOU WILL BE PUT DOWN.  BUT IF YOU HUMBLE YOURSELF, YOU WILL BE HONORED.”  

Then Jesus went on to explain from verse 12 to verse 14: “When you give a dinner ora a banquet, don’t invite your friends and family and relatives and rich neighbors.  If you do, they will invite you in return, and you will be paid back.  When you give a feast, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind.  They cannot pay you back.  But God will bless you and reward you when his people rise from death.”

I constantly think of the disadvantaged.  I constantly see the disadvantaged.  One day I was going into Manhattan to practice in one of my orchestras.  I came over the Triboro Bridge and landed smack in the middle of Harlem.  I exited the  FDR DRIVE by mistake I saw a woman between the age of 25 and 30.  Her dark brown   skin  was marbled looking.  She had lesions on her skin…Her mouth was cracked and painful looking.  I was stopped at the red light.  I knew what was about to happen.  I told my son to take out some money for the woman.  She came to my window—I gave her what little change I had left.  She told me “Thank you and God bless you!”   I said, “Look I could be where you are—-any one could be.  I have to answer to God for my actions.”—She looked at me and then replied–“You gave me money and the car in front is a Mercedes and that person would not give me anything.  I replied—“Because that person has more than you and I both—they think that they will not one day have you condition or mine—or may be that person does even care….But any way God Bless you  and take care of yourself.”  I drove off in my ten year old care with only twenty dollars in my pocket….wondering what would that woman do for the rest of her life—what disease was she plaqued with and where would she end up by the end of the year or in a day?  Sad—but just like a flower it blooms and withers away.  I pray for the world and my own child’s future.  Time seems slow when we are at work and hate our jobs….but soon our children grow up,  leave us  and then we are moved into nurseing homes and then whither and die like a delicate flower..   So to those in beautiful Mercedes,  Lexus cars —what ever you drive—remember life is short—live to the fullest—but don’t forget the down trodden—-take the “lesser seat at the wedding—-because you do not know who will be placed in that seat—-MAYBE THE WOMAN ASKING FOR A HANDOUT AT THE STOP LIGHT IN HARLEM —instead of you!!!!  —-Think on good things and build bridges–Don’t destroy!!!!