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WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO OPRAH?
I remember rushing home to watch Oprah at 4:00 every day after work. I had an early shift and I would love to have my afternoon snack and unwind with Oprah and her special “tear jerking” guests!
I enjoyed the eye opening discussions on women who had filty homes, or habits that were destroying their finances and ruining their marriages. Then she started her book club. I really could not get into that too much, but I enjoyed listening to the discussions on the books.
I watched Oprah go from a size twenty-two (my current size) and shrink to a size 10!!! I was happy for her, and even a bit jealous! I thought, I could lose weight too if I had my own personal weight trainer, maids to clean the house when I was too weak, exhausted after all of the exercise, and lack of food.
America On Line Black Voices Blog by Marcus Vanderburg in which there was a pol and a count down of all of Oprah’s mistakes for the year 2007. The worse mistakes had a pol and I will list them according to the Black Voices POl as follows:
Oprah Supports Supremacist — 44% -54,459
South African School– 36%- 45,236
K-Fed on Ophra Winfrey Show– 11%- 13,482
Vernon Winfrey Tell All Book– 5%- 5,656
Total Votes–124,285
*************This Pol was taken from the Every Body Hates Marcus AOL Black Voices —Pol on Oprah’s Biggest Mistakes of the Year 2007******************************
But anyway, I always gloried in Oprahs spunk! She is dark complexioned like me, and she has weight problems like me. I could really relate to her!
When I heard that she is a “BILLION DOLLAR WOMAN—ENTERPRISE MEGGA DIVA” I was shocked, amazed, and filled with hope and envy!
I wished that had been me, but I also knew that such a large powerful cooperation has a megga price to be paid!
I knew that all could not be well in paradise! I knew when I heard that Oprah and Stedman were having fights, and that she tossed him out in the middle of a dinner that there were difficulties ahead for her. First of all she did not appear to have control on what was being “leaked” to the press—even if it was from the National Enquirer.
Her gal pal Gail seemed to illicit some type of negative attitude(from gossip talk shows, like Wendy Williams, at 107.5 WBLS) about Oprah and her alleged intimate relationship.
Oprah seemed to ignore that stuff, but today I was reading the America On Line Black Voices -EVERY BODY HATES MARCUS- BLOG –and I became concerned about the future of Oprah!
The blog asked me to place a vote on what I thought the worse mistake of Oprah was this year.
After placing my vote I was surprised by the tally. I thought that the African School issue would have been more of a concern to people. The supremacist was clearly an error.
That was an issue as explained by the Everybody Hates Marcus Article, that was a children’s book on the Oprah book list of her book club, by an author who had written speaches for well known advocate of segregation, Govenor George Wallace.
Her large staff probably just made an oversight in that area. But I find the incident of child abuse on children who live in South Africa appauling!
I had written a response when that was first listed in the AOL Black Voices blog – that I could not understand how Ophra could run a school on a long distance mentality.
I felt that she needed to have a more hands on approach. Just because you send the money to the school, or hand out directives does not mean it is being followed through.
It is important to have a direct knowledge of any program that has your name heading it! That I believe is the biggest mistake of all.
Remember, the children are helpless, and so are the parents—especially since they live in South Africa! I do not want to place a negative spin on the parents, or the nation of South Africa, but truly you must see the need to be sensitive when addressing any “self-help” issues over there.
Africa as a continent is very complicated. Too many people have underestimated the intelligence, the wisdom, and the strong honorable ancestory of the people of Africa.
South Africa is a country that is forming a new society and new mentality internally. Therefore Ophra, I believe should have had a more “hands on” approach to developing a school for those children.
I also had heard that it appeared that she was too strict on the children. Obviously she did not do her homework on the culture of the children and their parents.
I have personal knowledge from discussions I have had with African people that I have met from Nigeria who have told me about very strong behavior rules, and values that they teach their children.
That is a very sticky situation to get involved in. But as I just stated, she should have done more homework on the issue, and visited at least once a month and had a walk through and been more of a hands on person than just a benefactor across the seas.
No one is perfect. Having a billion dollar cooperation does not make anyone into a saint, or make them a genious either. But I still believe taking a more hands on approach, or stop or quit some of the other projects inorder to give proper attention to the children.
So back to my title, “What will happen to Oprah?” I am growing concerned because it seems to me that people, on the Black Voices pol–who are most likely blacks—do not seem to like the Oprah of 2007. I believe they liked the old Oprah of yesteryear.
You know, back maybe ten years ago before she started loosing weight and having Tom Cruise on the show etc., etc..
Oprah is trying to steer a Megga Airplane all by herself!
Yes, she does have supportive staff, but who can tell what true loyalty is nowadays? I wonder if everybody from the “group” of Oprah from her assistants to her gal pal Gail really has Oprah’s best interest at heart.
Or, is she, Oprah, listening to the suggestions of her staff. Does she have enough “down time” alone to really think out and plan out her next ventures?
Does she really have good accountants counting up the costs of her ventures and giving her all the facts and figures on her ventures. What is her debt to income ratio?
I would hate to see that she suddenly owes the government, or finds that someone is filing sometype of allegations of megga proportions against her for maltreatment of some sort.
It seems like the year she turned fifty was a good year for her. She gave away cars, houses, trips and dreams to people over here in the United States! But when she ventured out she came under fire.
I wish for her all of the best. I hope that her family and friends support her and help her to stay on track.
Oprah for me has been a role model….not perfect….but still a role model nonetheless. She gave me the ability to dream past my small kitchen and my 15inch color T.V. sitting on the counter taking up space because I cannot affort a mounted flat screen like some of my BABY BOOMER COHORTS!
I enjoyed Oprah in that she allowed herself to be available to SUCCESS!
We need heros in this world….and I want Oprah to stay my hero! Stay well, and stay Successful Oprah—we–the world, need you!
Cakes and Cookies My Aunt Ellen Used to Bake! * Holiday Baking!!
My grandparents used to live on Pacific Street in Brooklyn New York when I was born in 1961. My parents had left Brooklyn before I was born and purchased a home in Queens New York.
I remember visiting my grandparents and my Great Aunt Ellen for the holidays. Sometimes my father would drive into Brooklyn and pick up my mother’s parents and Aunt Ellen.
They would then spend ThanksGiving with us in Queens. Aunt Ellen would always have “bags of plaid or green with rolling wheels filled with great smelling cookies, cakes, and ingredients to help my mother out with the Thanks Giving Feast!
It was a wonderful time of togetherness! I was about 5 or 6 when a picture had been taken of everybody at the table from my mother and father to the rest of the family gathered around for the prayer and the meal at the table. I always knew that this was supposed to be a special time.
They were imigrants from Virginia. My Great Aunt Ellen was a spinster. She was a member of a 7th Day Adventist church.
She was well known for her hand made dolls, her cooking and her baking! She would cook for church functions all the time. But she made her living cooking every day for a family of a wealthy Building Designer named Freidman.
My Aunt Ellen lived at the Friedman house on on Argiel Road 6 days a week. She cared for the two daughters, cleaned the house, and cooked breakfast, lunch and dinner.
She was a devote 7th Day Adventist so she attended church every Saturday. She was my favorite person to see when I went to my grandparents home.
I did not realize how special that apartment was until just now. Because so many of the things that I love to do are threaded by the love and quiet personality I had observed of my Aunt Ellen.
She spoke volumes with her actions by constantly being busy. She did not preach at you…she was just a quiet loving presence. She went away every year and baked up state at the Religious Retreats of the 7th Day Adventist.
When she passed it was a difficult time because she represented a era of my life. She lived long enough to meet my son after he was born, and she was talking to him and even recognized him and everyone else up until her dying moment.
Aunt Ellen had passed at the age of 86 years old. She left behind her hand made dolls and her quiet love for God and his word. Her bedroom was filled with Bibles and 7th Day Adventist literature.
The Freidman daugthers were middle aged women and they cried with great emotion at the wake and funeral. They stated that she was their second mother and they were in mourning for the dear Ellen.
Ellen’s Cakes*
Yellow Cake with milk Chocolate Frosting:
I would love to sneak pieces and pieces of cake and eat until my stomach hurt!!! She would make a three layer cake with the frosting between the layers. I loved to eat the chocolate all by itself! The cake was the bonus. My son always asks me why do I love chocolate so much. I think it truly is a comfort food for me. It reminds me of Aunt Ellen’s baking —I guess. She would sometimes put walnuts in the milk chocolate frosting. Every thing Aunt Ellen did was from scratch! No Betty Crocker for Aunt Ellen back in the 60’s and 70’s!
Classic White Cake with Coconut Frosting:
I would enjoy this cake also. It was light and fluffy, and had a pinapple center. Again all of her baking was done from scratch. Sometimes if I arrived on the one day she had off from the Friedman’s home, I would get to see Aunt Ellen in the midst of baking! (I have come to realize now, that is why I like to cook, and bake so much–when I have time!) I also love to knit, and sew by hand. I just do not have the time that I would like to devote to handcrafting!
Lemon Pound Cake:
There was no frosting on this cake….but the lemon was strong and the cake was firm but moist. I remember savoring the tangy lemony taste with a cup of milk! I did not like milk back then, but if Aunt Ellen baked something you would certainly expect to see me with a cup of milk!
Vanilla Drops:
These Vanilla Drop Cookies were hard as a rock! But once you got them in your mouth you kept eating, and eating till they were all gone! Aunt Ellen used baking soda, baking powder, yeast, and all of the traditional ingredients. Sometimes she would have me sift the flour for her baking. That was my favorite task when helping her out. She would chide me, or admonish me to do this or do that, or sit down so I wouldn’t spill anything! She never patted me on the head, or even kissed my cheek. She was very quiet and just plodded along her course until she finished one project of baking or another.
Chocolate/ Walnut, and or Chocolat Chip Cookies:
Yes, I saved the best for last. These cookies were the best for me. I would eat, and eat those cookies until my mother would tell me to stop it! I would sneak back into the kitchen and look inside this special roasting pot that Aunt Ellen would store her completed cookie projects inside of wax paper, foil, and little plastic bags.
I just loved to smell the flour and odor of baked goods as I would walk into that kitchen and take a cookie or two. I would check the kitchen table for evidence of a new baking project —you know ingredients of walnuts already cracked and waiting in little bags or containers.
I would then go across to the window and look out and see the elevated train station with people waiting for their train above Altantic Avenue. I would go back to the living room with my cookies!
Cakes I attempt to make>>>
Now that Aunt Ellen is gone for some years now, I still find myself loving home baked goods. I cannot recreate them from scratch but I go to the supermarket and pick up the boxes of BETTY CROCKER or Duncan Hines Cake mixes! I will list the group I will be making for this ThanksGiving Weekend:
Duncan Hines- Moist Deluxe Classic White Cake
****I have premade White Frosting with rainbow sprinkles for the White Cake.
Duncan Hines- Moist Deluxe **Red Velvet Cake
****I will use the premade Ducan Hines White Frosting for the Red Velvet Cake.
Duncan HInes- Moist Deluxe Butter Recipe Golden Cake
****I will use the premade milk chocolate frosting for the Golden Cake.
****Betty Crocker Fudge Brownies
I do not need any frosting on my brownies!
Two more are not cake but something I have discovered that are tasty:
Concord Foods Apple Crisp- I purchased this mix in King Kullen, but I have also purchased it in Waldbaums, and Pathmark Stores.
All that is needed is simple butter, and Fresh Apples! You can put icecream on this after it is prepared. It is great tasting and easy to make too!
Jiffy Corn Muffin Mix- This is the only mix that comes close to the old fashioned taste of Aunt Ellen’s cooking and her bisquits!
I truly enjoyed reminiscing with you about my love of Aunt Ellen, and her special quiet ways.
Enjoy your ThanksGiving Weekend, and the Special People in your lives!
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