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I remember rushing home to watch Oprah at 4:00 every day after work.  I had an early shift and I would love to have my afternoon snack and unwind with Oprah and her special “tear jerking” guests!

  I enjoyed the eye opening discussions on women who had filty homes,  or habits that were destroying their finances and ruining their marriages.  Then she started her book club.  I really could not get into that too much,  but I enjoyed listening to the discussions on the books. 

 I watched Oprah go from a size twenty-two (my current size) and shrink to a size 10!!!  I was happy for her,  and even a bit jealous!  I thought,  I could lose weight too if I had my own personal weight trainer, maids to clean the house when I was too weak, exhausted  after all of the exercise, and lack of food. 

America On Line Black Voices Blog by Marcus Vanderburg in which there was a pol and a count down of all of Oprah’s mistakes for the year 2007.  The  worse mistakes had a pol and I will list them according to the Black Voices POl as follows:

Oprah Supports Supremacist — 44%  -54,459

South African School–  36%- 45,236

K-Fed on Ophra Winfrey Show–  11%- 13,482

Vernon Winfrey Tell All Book–  5%- 5,656

Total Votes–124,285

*************This Pol was taken from the Every Body Hates Marcus AOL Black Voices —Pol on Oprah’s Biggest Mistakes of the Year  2007****************************** 

 But anyway,  I always gloried in Oprahs spunk!   She is dark complexioned like me, and she has weight problems like me.  I could really relate to her! 

 When I heard that she is a “BILLION DOLLAR WOMAN—ENTERPRISE MEGGA DIVA”  I was shocked,  amazed,  and filled with hope and envy! 

 I wished that had been me, but I also knew that such a large powerful cooperation has a megga price to be paid! 

 I knew that all could not be well in paradise!  I knew when I heard that Oprah and Stedman were having fights, and that she tossed him out in the middle of a dinner that there were difficulties ahead for her.   First of all she did not appear to have control on what was being “leaked” to the press—even if it was from the National Enquirer. 

 Her gal pal Gail seemed to illicit some type of negative attitude(from gossip talk shows, like Wendy Williams, at 107.5 WBLS)  about Oprah and her alleged intimate relationship. 

 Oprah seemed to ignore that stuff,  but today I was reading the America On Line Black Voices -EVERY BODY HATES MARCUS- BLOG –and I became concerned about the future of Oprah!

The blog asked me to place a vote on what I thought the worse mistake of Oprah was this year.

After placing my vote I was surprised by the tally.  I thought that the African School issue would have been more of a concern to people.  The supremacist was clearly an error. 

 That was an issue as explained by the Everybody Hates Marcus Article, that was a children’s book on the Oprah book list of her book club, by an author who had written speaches for well known advocate of segregation, Govenor George Wallace. 

Her large staff probably just made an oversight in that area.  But I find the incident of child abuse on children who live in South Africa appauling! 

 I had written a response when that was first listed in the AOL Black Voices blog – that I could not understand how Ophra could run a school on a long distance mentality. 

 I felt that she needed to have a more hands on approach.  Just because you send the money to the school,  or hand out directives does not mean it is being followed through. 

 It is important to have a direct knowledge of any program that has your name heading it!  That I believe is the biggest mistake of all. 

Remember,  the children are helpless,  and so are the parents—especially since they live in South Africa!  I do not want to place a negative spin on the parents,  or the nation of South Africa,  but truly you must see the need to be sensitive when addressing any “self-help” issues over there. 

 Africa as a continent is very complicated.  Too many people have underestimated the intelligence,  the wisdom,  and the strong honorable ancestory of the people of Africa. 

South Africa is a country that is forming a new society and new mentality internally.  Therefore Ophra,  I believe should have had a more “hands on” approach to developing a school for those children. 

 I also had heard that it appeared that she was too strict on the children.  Obviously she did not do her homework on the culture of the children and their parents. 

 I have personal knowledge from discussions I have had with  African people that I have met from Nigeria who have told me about very strong behavior rules, and values that they teach their children. 

 That is a very sticky situation to get involved in.  But as I just stated,  she should have done more homework on the issue, and visited at least once a month and had a walk through and been more of a hands on person than just a benefactor across the seas. 

No one is perfect.  Having a billion dollar cooperation does not make anyone into a saint,  or make them a genious either.  But I still believe taking a more hands on approach,  or stop or quit some of the other projects inorder to give proper attention to the children. 

So back to my title, “What will happen to Oprah?”  I am growing concerned because it seems to me that people, on the Black Voices pol–who are most likely blacks—do  not seem to like the Oprah of 2007.  I believe they liked the old Oprah of yesteryear. 

 You know, back maybe ten years ago before she started loosing weight and having Tom Cruise on the show etc., etc..

Oprah is trying to steer a Megga Airplane all by herself! 

 Yes, she does have supportive staff,  but who can tell what true loyalty is nowadays?  I wonder if everybody from the “group” of Oprah from her assistants to her gal pal Gail really has Oprah’s best interest at heart. 

 Or, is  she, Oprah, listening to the suggestions of her staff.  Does she have enough “down time” alone to really think out and plan out her next ventures? 

 Does she really have good accountants counting up the costs of her ventures and giving her all the facts and figures on her ventures.  What is her debt to income ratio? 

 I would hate to see that she suddenly owes the government, or finds that someone is filing sometype of allegations of megga proportions against her for maltreatment of some sort. 

 It seems like  the year she turned fifty was a good year for her.  She gave away cars,  houses,  trips and dreams to people over here in the United States!  But when she ventured out she came under fire. 

 I wish for her all of the best.  I hope that her family and friends support her and help her to stay on track. 

 Oprah for me has been a role model….not perfect….but still a role model nonetheless.  She gave me the ability to dream past my small kitchen and my 15inch color T.V. sitting on the counter taking up space because  I cannot affort a mounted flat screen like some of my BABY BOOMER COHORTS!

 I  enjoyed Oprah in that she allowed  herself to be available to SUCCESS! 

 We need heros in this world….and I want Oprah to stay my hero!  Stay well,  and stay Successful Oprah—we–the world,  need you!