1 Corinthians6 1-5
When one of you has a complaint against another, do you take your complaint to a court of sinners? Or do you take it to God’s people. Don’t you know that God’s people will judge the world? And if you are going to judge the world you can’t settle small problems? Don’t you know that we will judge angels? And if that is so, we can surely judge everyday matters. Why do you take every day complaints to judges who are not respected by the church? I say this to your shame. Aren’t any of you wise enough to act as a judge between one follower and another? Why should you take one another to be tried by unbelievers?”
The problem is that Ms. Bynum has dragged the Christian Church into this vortex of chaos that is sweeping over her life and her husband’s life! It is understood that Domestic Violence has been epidemic in our society for some years now. But when a Minister of the Gospel has to throw a dirty towel of finger pointing at her husband she now has tossed that dirty rag and painted the entire Christian Body of believers with that issue as well.
Now, every man that is a Christian is a possible wife beater until he proves himself. Young couples may now double check on one another and secretly wonder “What will my husband or wife do if we have an arguement?–Will he or she hit me?” What is the possible future implications for such a public display of “My husband who is a minster tried to Kill me!”
How do you take a marital issue–between two Christians to the MASS MEDIA? Doesn’t the scripture state that we are to go to the ministers of the church for issues between believers?—Oh that is right—both Ms. Bynum and her husband Bishop Thomas are the Leaders and Ministers of their respective congregations….So where are they supposed to go? I guess they are supposed to take their problems directly to the television programs that Ms. Bynum appeared on like: Star Jones Court Television, Good Morning America, and the Tom Joyner Morning Show. I do not believe that the Media serves the greater good when it comes to marital disputes between Christians! However, Ms. Bynum obviously believes that this is helping her case.
It is time for people who call themselves “Christian to take a stand and step forward and show the LOVE that is supposed to set us apart from the “World”—We are supposed to be the “SALT” of the earth.
Our personal lives are not meant to show continuous wealth and prosperity like some of the recent EXTREMELY WEALTHY minsters like Joel Osteen, Creflo Doller, Eddie Long, T.D. Jakes, and Joyce Meyers. (highlighted in a new book called www.snakesinthepulput.com, Reuben Armstrong and by being investigated by the government seem to think.
The true Christian walk and life experience is one of being a Servant to the down trodden; Foot washers; Healers; Bringing Peace to those cast down! Jesus stated that,
Luke 6: 43-45
A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot produce good fruit. You can tell what a tree is like by the fruit it produces. You cannot pick figs or grapes from thornbushes. Good people do good things because of the good in their hearts. Bad people do bad things because of the evil in their hearts. Your words show what is in your heart.”
In an effort to be fair to Ms. Bynum and her husband Bishop Thomas can I implicate an issue that is rarely discussed in such problems?
If Bishop Thomas is a domestic violence repeat offender there may be issues that we are unaware of that are plagueing him. What were his circumstances as a child? Was he a victim of child abuse, sexual abuse? What are the conditions he was raised in?
In this current society we tend to forget that some of our leaders were victims of abuse before they became LEADERS themselves. There are some Leaders who still need to sit with a counselor and minister themselves before they embark into a marriage or even leading a congreation.
S0me people really “love” their pastor. Some people forget that the pastor is only human. But the pastor must remember that he is human and attempt to maintain the integrity of the position that he has a Leader.
Look at Brother Moses when he lead the children of Israel out of Eygpt. He made many mistakes as a Leader. He really did not seek Leadership it was thrust upon him by God himself. Remember Moses even “hit” the rock to get water and was reprimanded by God for his actions.
No one is perfect—but we must be aware of our personal needs, and weaknesses. Therefore it would be best if Ms. Bynum would stop the MEDIA assualt on her husband.
Bishop Thomas needs to stop talking about his private life with his wife, Ms. Bynum and just stop for atleast six weeks and go on several types of “fasts”. A fast of talking to family and friends about their personal lives together. A fast from food, and a fast from even seeing, emailing, writing etc. to one another.
But an all out assualt should be done in prayer, quiet time with the Lord, and possible talking to a Christian Counselor dealing with the issues that lead up to this problem in the first place. Most domestic problems do not erupt over night.
The most and final important point is for Ms. Bynum and her husband to forgive each other!!! Forgiveness will be difficult due to the physical and emotional deep pain that both are definitely feeling at this time.
Luke 6: 37-38
Jesus said:
Don’t judge others, and God won’t judge you. Don’t be hard on others and God won’t be hard on you . Forgive others, and God will forgive you. If you give to others, you will be given a full amount in return. It will be shaken together, and spilling over into your lap. The way you treat others is the way you will be treated.
It is important that as a people Christians are held accountable for their actions. We are not on the” prayer a day keeps the devil away.” We must consider our conduct twentyfour hours, sevendays aweek. Three hundred sixty five days per year —every second and every minute. When we decide to confess Jesus as our Lord and Savior we become ambassadors to the World—spiritualy, and naturaly.
People look to see if we really hold God as the Author and Finisher of our faith. How we respond to the circumstances in our life will indicate how we have received love in our hearts from the the Savior.
Of course not one person is perfect in this world—but a show of humble quiet love that spreads to those most people might call unloveable will show a cold dark world the light and the reason why Christ came here—Why Christ came to mankind—to set the captive Free!
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David