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The VERY SAD Conditon of Minister Juanita Bynum and Domestic Violence in the Christian Church Today

FRUSTRATION.jpg 1 Corinthians6 1-5

When one of you has a complaint against another, do you take your complaint to a court of sinners?  Or do you take it to God’s people. Don’t you know that God’s people will judge the world?  And if you are going to judge the world you can’t settle small problems?  Don’t you know that we will judge angels?  And if that is so, we can surely judge everyday matters.  Why do you take every day complaints to  judges who are not respected by the  church?  I say this to your shame. Aren’t any of you wise enough to act as a judge between one follower and another?  Why should you take one  another to be tried by unbelievers?”

 The problem is that Ms. Bynum has dragged the Christian Church into this vortex of chaos that is sweeping over her life and her husband’s life! It is understood that Domestic Violence has been epidemic in our society for some years now.  But when a Minister of the Gospel has to throw a dirty towel of finger pointing at her husband she now has tossed that dirty rag and painted the entire Christian Body of believers with that issue as well. 

Now, every man that is a Christian is a possible wife beater until he proves himself.  Young couples may now double check on one another and secretly wonder “What will my husband or wife do if we have an arguement?–Will he or she hit me?”  What is the possible future implications for such a public display of “My husband who is a minster tried to Kill me!” 

How do you take a marital issue–between two Christians to the MASS MEDIA?   Doesn’t the scripture state that we are to go to the ministers of the church for issues between believers?—Oh that is right—both Ms.  Bynum and her husband Bishop Thomas are the Leaders and Ministers of their respective congregations….So where are they supposed to go?  I guess they are supposed to take their problems directly to the television programs that Ms. Bynum appeared on like: Star Jones Court Television,  Good Morning America, and the Tom Joyner Morning Show.  I do not  believe that the Media serves the greater good when it comes to marital disputes between Christians!  However,  Ms.  Bynum obviously believes that this is helping her case. 

It is time for people who call themselves “Christian to take a stand and step forward and show the LOVE  that is supposed to set us apart from the “World”—We are supposed to be the “SALT” of the earth.

  Our personal lives are not meant to show continuous wealth and prosperity like some of the recent EXTREMELY WEALTHY  minsters like Joel Osteen, Creflo Doller, Eddie Long, T.D. Jakes, and Joyce Meyers. (highlighted in a new book called www.snakesinthepulput.com, Reuben Armstrong and  by  being investigated by the government seem to think.

 The true Christian walk and life experience is one of being a Servant to the down trodden; Foot washers; Healers;  Bringing Peace to those cast down!  Jesus stated that,

Luke 6: 43-45

A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot produce good fruit.  You can tell what a tree is like by the fruit it produces.  You cannot pick figs or grapes from thornbushes.  Good people do good things because of the good in their hearts.  Bad people do bad things because of the evil in their hearts.  Your words show what is in your heart.”

In an effort to be fair to Ms. Bynum and her husband Bishop Thomas can I implicate an issue that is rarely discussed in such problems?

If  Bishop Thomas is a domestic violence repeat offender there may be issues that we are unaware of that are plagueing him.  What were his circumstances as a child?  Was he a victim of child abuse,  sexual abuse?  What are the conditions he was raised in?

  In this current society we tend to forget that some of our leaders were victims of abuse before they became LEADERS themselves.  There are some Leaders who still need to sit with a counselor and minister themselves before they embark into a marriage or even leading a congreation. 

S0me people really “love” their pastor.  Some people forget that the pastor is only human.  But the pastor must remember that he is human and attempt to maintain the integrity of the position that he has a Leader. 

Look at Brother Moses when he lead the children of Israel out of Eygpt.  He made many mistakes as a Leader.  He really did not seek Leadership it was thrust upon him by God himself.  Remember  Moses even “hit”  the rock to get water and was reprimanded by God for his actions. 

No one is perfect—but we must be aware of our personal needs, and weaknesses.  Therefore it would be best if Ms. Bynum would stop the MEDIA assualt on her husband. 

 Bishop Thomas needs to stop talking about his private life with his wife, Ms.  Bynum and just stop for atleast six weeks and go on several types of “fasts”.  A fast of talking to family and friends about their personal lives together.   A fast from food,  and a fast from even seeing,  emailing,  writing etc. to one another. 

 But an all out assualt should be done in prayer,  quiet time with the Lord,  and possible talking to a Christian Counselor dealing with the issues that lead up to this problem in the first place.  Most domestic problems do not erupt over night. 

 The most and final important point is for Ms.  Bynum and her husband  to forgive each other!!!    Forgiveness will be  difficult due to the physical and emotional deep pain that both are definitely feeling at this time.

Luke 6: 37-38

Jesus said:

Don’t judge others, and God won’t judge you.  Don’t be hard on others and  God won’t be hard on you .  Forgive others, and God will forgive you.  If you give to others,  you will be given  a full amount in return.  It will be shaken together, and spilling over into your lap.  The way you treat others is the way you will be treated.

It is important that as a people Christians are held accountable for their actions.  We are not on the” prayer a day keeps the devil away.”  We must consider our conduct twentyfour hours,  sevendays aweek.  Three hundred sixty five days per year —every second and every minute.  When we decide to confess Jesus as our Lord and Savior we become ambassadors to the World—spiritualy,  and naturaly. 

 People look to see if we really hold God as the Author and Finisher of our faith.  How we respond to the circumstances in our life will indicate how we have received love in our hearts from the  the Savior. 

 Of course not one person is perfect in this world—but a show of humble quiet love that spreads to those most people might call unloveable will show a cold dark world the light and the reason why Christ came here—Why Christ came to mankind—to set the captive Free!



  David Thomas wrote @

You should do more homework on Ruben Armstrong before you advocate his book. Most of his assertions are more rumors than facts and he himself is of extremely questionable carachter.



  BoycottTBN wrote @

Pimptress Juanita Bynum is a wolf in sheep’s clothing like the Bible speaks of coming. She spews vomit and twists scripture. She is filthy rich, does not pay her bills, and brags about buying $5,000 ink pens and tells folks that they are common if they use BIC. Check it out on youtube.com and search “$5,000 pen” in youtube’s search bar. It’s there…..

  riveroflifelisajoy wrote @

Thank you for your response. I would like to explain that I have had personal experience with a very well known case of a “snake in the plupit” I attended Massapequa Tabernacle. This is the church from which Jessica Hahn had come from . This was during the issue of the Jim Baker and Tammy Faye PTL money scandal. This was very embarressing to me because the pastor of the church (Massapequa) was also implicated in that scandal as well. He was the one who had introduced Jessica Hahn to Jim Baker if you remember. I have been a singer in large congregations and small simple down home folk congregations too. I never get paid to sing-but I noticed that when famous preachers come to preach they ALL WAYS GET PAID. My husband had been very sick and continuously gave his tithe and donations to Creflo Doller Organization—He believed that he could be healed just like Mr. Doller said. I could not get him to a hospital until I did it legally—So his condition go worse and it never got better. I went to several large and well known congregations to get help—just so someone would visit and pray—I was told that they already prayed and that was good enough. I have no problem with that….but no one offered assistance to a woman with a child whose husband was incapable of caring for his family. But I noticed how the minster drove a large cadiliac, and so did his wife. —Please be clear….I believe that the pastor can live off of the tithes and offerings—but how much is too much? How much is it when the pastor buys his son a car with my tithe and offering or buys himself an airplane like Creflo so he can jet from one end of the world to the other doing God’s work? Wouldn’t it be better to set up other ministers?! Jesus said, the works I do you shall do also…..Greater works you shall do? What happened to that? Jesus rode on a donkey—not a jet!!!! Jesus FED the multitudes he did not collect and offering from those seeking salvation. —No disrespect to your opinion—but I believe there are no rumors here—-observe—Non are so blind as those who will not see!!!! Give to the poor—build schools for mentoring young black and all race boys and teach them to be leaders. You can raise up leaders in the church by leading by example. How many people are going to be able to afford a airplane to travel from one ministry location to the other? LETS BE REALISTIC! God bless my brothers and sisters….we all most pray for God’s leaders so that they will not be mislead themselves!

  riveroflifelisajoy wrote @

Thanks Boycott—It is truly a sad, sad condition when the money is more important than the salvation of souls. I want all of us to truly pray for the leaders of today who have been truly lead astray and for the leaders of tomorrow that the Lord put a seed of love and self sarcrifice in their hearts and a burning passion to save souls!

  Augie wrote @

I think that in the Christian world that what make it some bad is that it suppose to be pure. However, in Bishop and Dr. Weeks case they are mud slinging because they both know Holiness and what they should and should not do. Yes, it is ungodly and they both need to repent and stop trying to say or show which one is right or wrong. They need to keep quiet like Paula and Randy. Why do they have to air their dirty laundry to the world. Both need to be ashame. For all have sinned and come short of the Glory of God. They have fallen very, very, very, short and young women and men all over the world are watching. This is a shame that these so called role models are acting like this. REPENT, ASK GOD FORGIVENESS, BE “QUIET” and allow God to clean up what you all have messed up. I can say it will be a long time before I buy some more of their books and listen to them again. Shame on both you all. My 24 year old daughter is now talking and I am trying to get her to God. Shame on you souls are being lost watching and listening to this JUNK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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