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There is Hope for Minister Bynum!!! And Hope for all Marriages!!!

One person can save a marriage.  I read that in a book I found in the  Christian Book Store located  on Queens Boulevard  when I was going through some things with my marriage some years ago.  It is true.  I lived it.  Each situation is different of course. 

 For example,  a Christian marriage should be lead by the spirit of God.  Christians are supposed to be ministers before they are married couples.  We are all supposed to be followers of Christ.  Desciples of the Lord.  We are supposed to bring the truth in love and compassion to non-believers. 

In 2 Corinthians 4: 1-6

God has been kind enough to trust us with this work.  That’s why we never give up.  We don’t do shameful things  that must be kept secret.  And we don’t try to fool anyone or twist God’s message around.  God is our witness that we speak only the truth, so others will be sure that we can be trusted.  If there is anything hidden about our message it is hidden only to someone who is lost. 

The god who rules this world has blinded the minds of unbelievers.  They cannot see the light, which is the good news about our glorious Christ, who shows what God is like.  We are not preaching about ourselves.  Our message is that Jesus Christ is Lord. He also sent us to be your servants.  The scriptures say, “God commanded light to shine in the dark.”  Now God is shining in our hearts to let you know that his glory is seen in Jesus Christ.

Many of us became excited when walked to the alter and go up brand new!  We had spiritual enlightenment!  We came to see that what we thought was fun years ago or even the day before was nothing to compare with the change in our hearts once we received Jesus as our Lord and Savior. 

Some of us began to speak in tongues right away!  Some of us began to heal right away.  Some of us were given the ability to pray or preach right away.  Still others had some growing to do.  But no matter what the growth level, the Lord loves us all equally.  That is why it is so important for all of us not to lose our first Love in Jesus!  He is the reason that our lives  have been changed. 

Once a Christian takes on a ministry it is difficult to  separate that person from the road that he or she must walk.  It is a hard road.  It is a road of being a servant to others. 

 Therefore it is important for the Christians of today to acknowlege that our role in the world is to be a “foot washer”- as Jesus taught the deciples– When considering a marriage partner,  one must look deep inside. 

 One must ask the question, ” How much attention do I believe I deserve?  How much self esteem can I offer to the relationship.  Being a married woman I had to believe in myself.  I had to have faith in myself. 

 In order for someone to love you—You must love YOURSELF!  Conceit is not the discussion.  Pride is definitely not in the picture.  But loving yourself as a Christian means acknowledging the beauty that the Lord sees when he looks at every believer who states that Jesus is Lord! 

 That seed of faith that took hold in your heart that now shines from within is what you love about you!  You  love that  “new person”  that you have become in Christ.  Therefore as a married couple—LOVE—starts from the acknowledgement of Christ  Love Shining from within each partner in the marriage. 

Each partner is to be a representative of the glory of Christ love come to earth for  one another.  There should be no space for an abusive,  domestic violent episode between two believers who have opened their hearts to the Lord. 

However,  there are people who are believers who have been injured and harmed by lifes ups and down.   If a believer decides to take up the role of a marriage  partner,  that person must search and seek answers from the Lord. 

Some pains that  were suffered are deep ugly wounds.  Some have been hidden behind bright cheery smiles.  When  that happens it seems to wait for the most inappropriate time to raise the outburst from a deep wound suffered many years ago.

..but  by a quick thougthless word by one of the Christians in the marriage it would appear that the circumstances become fertile to create a breeding ground for anger,  fear,  resentment,  anamosity, and possibly violence.  These are issues that only a qualified pyschologist,  or pshyicartrist can explain.  But we know as the scripture states

2 Corinthians 4-16

We never give up.  Our bodies are gradually dying, but we ourselves are being made stronger each day.  These little troubles are getting us ready for an eternal glory that will make all our troubles seem like nothing.  Things  that are seen don’t last forever, but things  that are not seen are eternal.  That’s why we keep our minds on the things that cannot be seen.

When Ms. Bynum and her husband came together on that night of the beating….the situation was already out of control.  I truly believed that the Lord felt the pain of the couple.  I truly believe that the Lord understands the stressors and strains that were pulling at both the marriage partners that night. 

But I also believe that there is hope.  There are things that each person can do that can change the course that they are on.  Mostly because God loves both of the people that had a severe break in their marriage vows to each other. 

To replace the pain with peace and love will be the test.  But if both want it,  or one wants it.  I believe there is hope.

But first,  the couple must forget the area of being”MARRIED”—-first as Christians we are ALL THE BRIDE OF CHRIST!  So Ms. Bynum and her husband Bishop Thomas need to return to their very, very,  very, first Love!—-JESUS!!! 

 Get reaquainted with the Son of God.  Let him wipe away every tear and heal the deep hurts that are so painful that words cannot express.  Then and only then can a Christain Married couple of any name,  famous or not be brought back together  and heal and mend and be rejoined as ONE FLESH–with a goal of saving souls!!!  

In conclusion for those angry with Minister Bynum and her Husband Bishop Thomas:

Psalm  103:2-12

With all my heart

I will praise the Lord!

I will never forget

how kind he has been.

The Lord forgives our sins,

heals us when we are sick,

and protects us from death.

His kindness and love

are a crown on our heads

Each day that we live

he provides for our needs and

gives us the strength

of a young eagle.

For all who are mistreated,

the Lord brings justice.

He taught hs Law to Moses

and showed all Israel what

he could do.

***The  Lord is mericful!

He is kind and patient,

and his love never fails.

The Lord won’t always be

angry and point out our sins;

he dosen’t punish us

as our sins deserve.

How great is God’s love for all who

worship him?

Greater than the distance between

heaven and earth!

How far has the Lord taken

our sins from us?

Farther than the distance from east

to west!

Let us think as Christians,  as Ministers of the Gospel–for we have all been commissioned to preach the gospel throughout the earth—-that Minister Bynum and her husband need our prayers and the supernatural Agape Love of Christ in all of us,  and through all of us on their behalf.


1 Comment»

  Jesus Christ wrote @

This is a very great article and it provide me a very valuable information about the Christians in Africa and there marriages which are related and depend on the faith and beliefs and this is a very great informations. Thanks for providing good information.

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